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We often heard people say that young men and women before marriage should be opened wide eyes , look up the eyes of the he (she ) is not a suitable partner for life so that you entrusted . " Bible . Proverbs " 20:11 Day , said a person's movements are manifest his nature ; " Monitor " section 23:7 says , He was what , how his heart . Instrumentation and conversation can reveal a person's heart , carefully observe the two , as we recognize a person's reference . " Bible " taught that we should have a high degree of resolution (" Corinthians , " 12:10 Festival ), but should not be the attitude of argument (" Matthew " 7:1,2 section). Thesis is a lack of caring attitude , but a kind of insight into the hearts and minds distinguish acute powers of observation . The following items can be used as we know , to understand a person's reference:

His face is kind , joy , or is it perversity , workers in calculating ;

His clothes are clean, decent , or without putting too much emphasis on appearance ;

The attitude of his parents is filial piety , gratitude , or contempt for disobedience ;

His work attitude is attentive , serious , or lazy , perfunctory ;

He talks of the grace of wisdom , elegance , or shallow , no depth;

He dealt with dissenting views are constructive or destructive ;

His interpersonal relationships are large, forgiveness , or to care about , critical attitude towards others?

His style, attitude is down to earth , or the quick success then ?

Treatment of the unfortunate , he is feel pity , or schadenfreude ?

Dear friends , I hope the above we can observe these projects we want to make friends , especially our life companion .

Each of us are not isolated , are a team in a long , behind the ranks of the team , the team to move forward with this , do not know why because the attention of our colleagues , our words and deeds On the others also have a great impact , whether that impact is good or bad. A young preacher , from his personal experience learned such a lesson.

Story takes place in a city in Southeast Asia . One afternoon, a farmer went to church to find a preacher said to him : " Oda outside a woman in the town , a woman will soon passed away , the woman was a Christian , I hope before the terminal Please pray for her missionary , do not know preacher Can Go? " preacher heard this , just like TV drama went to the farmer . But do not take the number of road , a group of ragged drilled out from the grass , blocking his path , seized his hand , so that he could not move . The original group of kidnappers . They were detained up to preach . Head of the Mission of the kidnappers said : "We left you is for the money . foreign people support you must also have a lot of money . as long as you come up with a money , we will let you go ! " young preacher Said: " We are dedicated his life to God , living a life of disadvantaged families , our churches and from where to get a lot of money to supply you? " the head of the kidnappers , " Pooh , " a cry for the words of a preacher is not Believe . The next few months , the kidnappers to bring pastors from one another , tortured him. Let him do menial work , constantly whipping him, it is only to eat only to sustain life . Every night , the guards with a thick rope tied to his elbows and knees together, until the physical pain suffered only when sleeping in the past .

One night , the young preacher who was so asleep. Suddenly, he felt a hand on his shoulder . He opened his eyes and saw the moonlight that the first robber 's face . Bandit head whispered: "Do not talk ! " a knife in his hand , shining , and soon erupted took two legs tied down loose . "You are now free. go away! Maybe you run home . " preacher whispered : " Why do you want to do ? "" I 'll tell you why : I kick you, I beat you, you always suffer ; You pray for me ; you tell me you love me. If you kick me also , I play also , I know you're lying . But you will never change , so I let you go . " the preacher who quietly struggle Was stood up , holding out his hand . Robber holds preacher 's hand and whispered : "My old mother was sick at home , ask you for my mother in front of Jesus in your prayers now! goodbye . "

Six weeks later, pastor returned to his church , haggard and weak . Over a long period of time we go up to restore the previous strong . But his confidence is better than ever . Because he did not know before teaching by example than precept , to be a good example of their influence is great . Perhaps at this time , perhaps in this place , someone is watching you , someone is watching me, to you and me as a role model , and we do not know themselves .