Isaac blessed Jacob After and Esau heart bitter to kill Jacob . Old father Isaac No as , did not speak . Here to see the elderly Problems : stubborn, confused, refused to change, and took no ideas . Isaac of course was the heir , is of Abraham the only son , in his youth had been on the altar , how great a spiritual fathers , but as the head of the family is concerned, we really can not say His in this place performance so we were a bit disappointed , or do not quite understand .
old man Problems Is the stubborn , confused. To Isaac , he at that time Why the problems ? in the church There are some Service to be master elderly people , he went to the old time, that such problems. Over the past when he was young , the main work , that to the older , other people also more respect for him. Older service to be the main , there are two extremes. One is stubborn , we all have to listen to him. Another is the older the more likely very relaxed , because he knowledge of God more clearly , the more that let go.
Is there any way to prevent aging it? Is to of your life to be a preach the gospel man. A very old old man , he see people will clearly the gospel tell you to listen to , his certainly not a eyes dim person , the brain quite clear. You want to prevent aging, to preach the gospel . You want to prevent their eyes dim , and his stay in the service to be the factory on .
of Isaac, The work where he served until the plant is farming , digging a well. Isaac of the family son things , blessed thing, his eyes had sight. These are our young must develop the habit , do not let the gospel from your mouth to stop , do not let service to be , serving others , serving the church from your hands to stop. This may be the grace of God under , we went to the old when would not repeat Isaac the mistakes .
2010年9月28日星期二
2010年9月26日星期日
from the night Do not want to go home to family focus on
Many relatives and friends , the students met me, have wondered why I would believe in Christ. Frankly speaking , 2003 years ago , if someone said I would become a Christian , faith in Jesus Christ , I do not believe . Because I can not accept any religion. was does not believe that there God , down I believe people have to rely on their own efforts to overcome all adversity. I think that 's good or bad according to his good behavior and accomplishments comments . The success size to depends on his have adequate qualifications knowledge of and whether they could earn enough the wealth.
married After more than a wife is , but life 's goal is not to change or every day knowing only work the accumulation of wealth . After work Whim to do what he wanted . Because of personalities and ways of doing things the different , in many things cognitive had a great gap , disputes have expected , our love will follow gradually disappeared!
born First child after the life is so , have a second child after the life or so. Originally, we also have a third child, but because there is no love relationship we have given up the child.
At the time I really was just too proud , and does not know give up a child it warned me that marriage is a problem, but continue to live self-centered day. every day came home late , sometimes the work 's sake , sometimes Colleagues or friends linger hotel. At that time after work to the other side is good, just do not want to go home.
At that time wife my is very unhappy , but she the corresponding way made me and do not want with her to communicate to continue to to more apathy respond . was I in heart not very annoying her , but do not know what she was thinking , she what is ? I do not have provided you need to you yet? I treated you the way than me Many friends and his wife to you?
God First, changed my wife , she married the first 7 years back to the church , and later joined von sister the group . I have a feeling she was I respond way not quite the same , but I still heart was hardened, for her tender not much feelings and no response.
This took another 6-7 years until 2002 May , my country, two children is a problem, this thing makes me very sad because my children have always been good proud of the baby . We spent six months tried all kinds of nothing, have can not help this child. The pressure of work with the child 's inability to defeat me. The first time I felt carrying the burden of desperation . all the way Almost to be sealed, so I'm the verge of collapse .
January 2003 , the first soft-hearted down, listen to his wife the views of to the Campus Crusade for Christ 's marriage program.
After several classes , I heard the past have never heard of the teachings of , but also listen to our problems lie . Child's problem reflects the family problems . home The problem lies in the spiritual of the first out of the question. I stress God entrusted to him by the work , let Satan attack my family.
As the course progressed, God the truth of little by little into my heart , my heart is getting soft. In by the end of March 2003 the course , I the teacher under the guidance of bow to if the tears do decision for pray to Christ, Jesus sincere to repent and that obedience to the Lord 's will.
Believe the main after the of my life focus family, no longer work. Now I am a "God first, wife child second , work third . " God is faithful , He does not for me to work put in third and short of his the glory , thank God He gave me far I seek more than . Gradually, my wife and I the relationship between improved a lot , and I can understand her language .
of marriage after the course God led I went to Campus Crusade for Christ Brethren , we every Thursday night have fixed gatherings, worship of God , physically sharing, prayer. I from this far away from a lot of drink friends, but I do not feel alone. I know how to draw near to God , I know there are brothers and can transport, I know trouble there was a servant of God will at any moment help me.
today to Here for God witness , really want to thank God for my salvation and grace , this is my personal of failure testimony , but also my to re- win testimony , where to tell the past things are not glorious , because it does Takes courage , but fortunately I understand it all do not for themselves , and are for God's sake , so when Lee Brother asked me to witness , I will readily accept.
of marriage today Has seventeen years , in retrospect it over a decade is really very hard , particularly over the past three years to really like through that the shadow of death the valley of generally , if not relying on God, my wife and I must go , but come. Thank God for my " pruning " , because I know he is to me long more robust and more life.
married After more than a wife is , but life 's goal is not to change or every day knowing only work the accumulation of wealth . After work Whim to do what he wanted . Because of personalities and ways of doing things the different , in many things cognitive had a great gap , disputes have expected , our love will follow gradually disappeared!
born First child after the life is so , have a second child after the life or so. Originally, we also have a third child, but because there is no love relationship we have given up the child.
At the time I really was just too proud , and does not know give up a child it warned me that marriage is a problem, but continue to live self-centered day. every day came home late , sometimes the work 's sake , sometimes Colleagues or friends linger hotel. At that time after work to the other side is good, just do not want to go home.
At that time wife my is very unhappy , but she the corresponding way made me and do not want with her to communicate to continue to to more apathy respond . was I in heart not very annoying her , but do not know what she was thinking , she what is ? I do not have provided you need to you yet? I treated you the way than me Many friends and his wife to you?
God First, changed my wife , she married the first 7 years back to the church , and later joined von sister the group . I have a feeling she was I respond way not quite the same , but I still heart was hardened, for her tender not much feelings and no response.
This took another 6-7 years until 2002 May , my country, two children is a problem, this thing makes me very sad because my children have always been good proud of the baby . We spent six months tried all kinds of nothing, have can not help this child. The pressure of work with the child 's inability to defeat me. The first time I felt carrying the burden of desperation . all the way Almost to be sealed, so I'm the verge of collapse .
January 2003 , the first soft-hearted down, listen to his wife the views of to the Campus Crusade for Christ 's marriage program.
After several classes , I heard the past have never heard of the teachings of , but also listen to our problems lie . Child's problem reflects the family problems . home The problem lies in the spiritual of the first out of the question. I stress God entrusted to him by the work , let Satan attack my family.
As the course progressed, God the truth of little by little into my heart , my heart is getting soft. In by the end of March 2003 the course , I the teacher under the guidance of bow to if the tears do decision for pray to Christ, Jesus sincere to repent and that obedience to the Lord 's will.
Believe the main after the of my life focus family, no longer work. Now I am a "God first, wife child second , work third . " God is faithful , He does not for me to work put in third and short of his the glory , thank God He gave me far I seek more than . Gradually, my wife and I the relationship between improved a lot , and I can understand her language .
of marriage after the course God led I went to Campus Crusade for Christ Brethren , we every Thursday night have fixed gatherings, worship of God , physically sharing, prayer. I from this far away from a lot of drink friends, but I do not feel alone. I know how to draw near to God , I know there are brothers and can transport, I know trouble there was a servant of God will at any moment help me.
today to Here for God witness , really want to thank God for my salvation and grace , this is my personal of failure testimony , but also my to re- win testimony , where to tell the past things are not glorious , because it does Takes courage , but fortunately I understand it all do not for themselves , and are for God's sake , so when Lee Brother asked me to witness , I will readily accept.
of marriage today Has seventeen years , in retrospect it over a decade is really very hard , particularly over the past three years to really like through that the shadow of death the valley of generally , if not relying on God, my wife and I must go , but come. Thank God for my " pruning " , because I know he is to me long more robust and more life.
2010年9月25日星期六
Students need to learn the mentality of employment
Chinese college students in recent years employment has always been persistent , and this year is "A leaky house with rain every side . " Multinational business contraction , the employer needs tightening , so this has been difficult for university enrollment and employment situation , more difficult . In this current crisis , I interviewed several previous and current year as a Christian college graduates , the employment challenges facing their state of mind ?
First, rely on the heart
Cong is a small university graduate students in law , 2008 graduation, as a very fortuitous opportunity , she very smoothly into a very well-known foreign law firms , this job is very grateful for her experience . However, the impact of the financial crisis , she has less than three months of internship , he was the first to get fired . This unexpected blow quite lost her first , but then I thought, reward is God, does it not charge God? Heart will gradually calm down .
After months of quiet waiting , eager to understand the mind of God the process , she gradually realized that the original of this work has looked dazzling bright , but it was not her own interest, and one's own nature is not really suitable for this Jobs. She said to me: "God's way above our path , God's thoughts above our thoughts , God let me lose this job, with his wonderful kindness . "
So , since the intention of her job has changed , began to move toward the direction of a real interest in her career, re-planning . But so far, she cast out resumes have not reply . This situation, she did not deny a certain degree of pressure : "The key is economic pressure on it, because I love the banking sector is now practice , can be sure will not lose their jobs , unemployed if he has two people living in large cities will A very difficult . "
In this pressure, which the couple graduated from prestigious universities do not fall into depression and bitterness , but a beginning entrusted with studying and look deeper . " and not rely on force, rather than rely on the talent, but simply rely on God . Let us in the difficulties of life growing . This is also the God of this year, the biggest lesson I learned .
Second , preparations to establish the plan
It is a small college computer science 09 graduates. In February , he told me a few years ago the prospect of computer science is very good, but a few years more and more employment situation is not optimistic . Just happens to catch a lot of computer companies have laid off this year , substantially reduce or even abolish the campus recruitment program, so far, the class is also not a student find a job , everyone's attitude is very tense . However , as Christians, fairly quiet in his own mind , he believed that his road ahead , are in the hands of God , God will be ready for him . It is such a trust , precarious occasion , the young students seemed equanimity .
That he worries about is definitely the approach graduation , they find that they lack the professional equipment , " the theory and practice are out of line of Discipline great sense of what these four did not learn very valuable things , the employment of graduates in the fierce Competition, lack of advantage. " So, when most students are thinking desperately , utterly exhausted everywhere to resume when he goes back home to seriously study charge . Be considered " temporary deep envy of fish, as retreat webs "policy.
He said, "I think your job on the one hand, depend on God, but it is also necessary to discharge their duties and responsibilities. more need to be clear boundaries between the two : ask God to let me know what things need to be entrusted Free hand to God , what do I need to aggressive . " Therefore , he insisted every morning reading more spiritual laws of life to the Word of God to do feet and a light path.
"In fact, close to graduation , family expectations , the students of the tension, a variety of gray -line information will influence their opinion , there will be impetuous attitude of anxiety , full of frustration , at which point only by silent prayer Want to return to God. God always reminds me : Do not worry about tomorrow . one day at Tam enough . so I can have peace of mind to secure the challenges faced . "
Third , consumption of thinking
Wheat also graduated from famous universities and is currently a senior staff of well-known foreign banks , the financial crisis on the industry where the impact of her very large , every few days to see my colleagues , " off ", and results are all normal Not bad colleagues. She does not know which day will be next to go. After all, in crisis, layoffs equality . She will think the most realistic details of the problem: If it really was unemployed, and 1:30 would be difficult to find a new job , how to maintain their daily lives ?
Fortunately this time , she just participated in a Christian organization on the " biblical principles and financial management, " a series of lectures and benefit. Her to reflect on the past, the treatment work better paid, also more free to spend money shopping free , lavish ; now practice how to live within our means , saving, managing and planning their own financial plan . She said, " The aim of the course learning is not just to cope with financial crisis , but according to God's intention to adjust their living conditions , so their attitude and desire to become more pure simple substances . "
4 , responded to the crisis
Kobayashi is a student fellowship pastor young shepherd , he thinks the financial crisis spread to not only graduate in 2009 , it is 2010 or later sessions of the graduates in the long run , the younger generation college students Christians how to deal with the financial crisis , he gave some suggestions for reference.
First, from the knowledge and attitudes , through the financial crisis , to understand the situation of life , the situation in the world are in the hands of God , the initiator of the financial crisis , greed is the sin of the world itself , not the director of God Design , but God allowed to happen , is to give people more alert . And let us recognize the deeper truth behind the world's prosperity , the world 's nature is fragile , transient, changing , unreliable . The only thing we can trust the same God.
Second, from the specific situation , if you are a high threshold of the University of candidates , through the financial crisis , you can remind yourself deeper , in the choice of profession, not to blindly herd , drift , to make big money for the future whether Goal -oriented , but need to measure whether the profession can play their own potential , input their own passion , to the glory of God and contribute to society for the study objectives ; If you are a graduate of the college or the work of professionals in need Better value jobs, that work itself is the grace of God , even to their own posts and honor God ; if you are in a financial crisis in the unemployed, on the one hand needs to be turned to God, to believe " Flooding when the LORD reigns ; " On the other hand , a positive attitude to face reality , to equip themselves , following God's leading to find a new way out .
Third, from the concept of life , post-modern consumer culture increasingly eroded this generation of young people , also affected the church in young Christians . Rationalization in the sugar-coated shells of material desires , the young people today can understand the suffering of very few , very few can understand the meaning of life the simple life . Therefore , young Christians need in the current financial crisis, more alert , to reflect upon their own ideas about consumption. This is not only to " prepare famine " , but also to reflect on their own by " consumerism "and rule over how deep ? In accordance with the principles of the Bible , re- adjust their world view , values , consumption . At the same time , the church should also post-modern consumer culture more response and guidance.
In any case, wish in career choices , employment difficulties, unemployment and under pressure, brothers, sisters and friends , to God the Father , then , for the feet and a light , road light, all the way, a good journey !
2010年9月24日星期五
View History vocation
To want to do a good job and achieved career success , if not from the depths of philosophy and religion to grasp the essence of professional and dedicated , then the operation of our work will have three minutes when the heat . Must be clear that the theories and ideas is the true source of sustained enthusiasm for the work . Faith with the sacred nature of the work . This respect the most original inspiration from the Bible , on the other hand is at the Reformation
To want to do a good job and achieved career success , if not from the depths of philosophy and religion to grasp the essence of professional and dedicated , then the operation of our work will have three minutes when the heat . Must be clear that the theories and ideas is the true source of sustained enthusiasm for the work . Faith with the sacred nature of the work . This respect the most original inspiration from the Bible , on the other hand is the inevitable result was the Reformation .
The original meaning of work
In the " Bible " of opening the Book of Genesis , God created the heavens and the earth and people , creating also a kind of work, so work began from God . This also makes the work of nature with the sacred intrinsic value. Mankind began work begins , " Lord spared the man ( Adam ) placed in the Garden of Eden so that he repairs, guard "( " Bible Book of Genesis "). Here, the " repair guard "is a task of God to the human arrangements , is also the most original definition of human work .
In Genesis , God also who said : " Be fruitful and multiply , and replenish the ground , control the land ; also fish of the sea birds of the air , and all kinds of living thing that moves on the ground . " Here, Governance and management arrangements that were the work of God, and professional . Therefore, the people working with sacred meaning , it should never be belittled, but it should be reverent worship .
Is to belittle the work of the
Martin Luther and Calvin to teach in reform before the Catholic priest at all levels, dominated by the Pope and all , monopolizing the material and the belief that people were living . Pope and priests at all levels, self-proclaimed spokesmen for God , do not ask people to directly read the "Bible" of their own lived extravagant life and telling his followers to implement with the escapist doctrine false imprisonment , and to the believers exacting , and later even used to sell so-called Of " indulgences "to amass property . At work and occupational outlook , they preach a hamper social progress and human well-being of the doctrine .
They think the world is fallen, evil , all the world , including people's work and life are corrupt and shameful . In particular, access to wealth through the operation and activities of criminal intent in the crime . A myriad of mental occupation in the world , only the priest 's job is holy, and valuable, all other occupations worthless , very humble . One must live for the afterlife , the most important work is prayer , and a variety of complicated rituals , as this life of clothing, housing , completely dismissed .
People should disdain worldly affairs, away from the earth , prayer penance in inaccessible places , the last to enter Paradise . Is only a living , but services can not avoid trouble , but no alternative work activities . Secular labor and business activities at the time were ignored, are prohibited , and freeloader large groups of priests and beggars, but to enjoy a very high honor and courtesy . All this was greatly hindered economic development and social progress , harming people's well-being .
The new interpretation of Martin Luther
Martin Luther changed religion , the vigorous promotion of the four major principles: " Every man for priests , everyone has vocation , everyone is steward , everyone has the Bible. " He believes that every person is equal before God , and God 's call is also equal. Martin Luther emphasized that God's call are not limited to salvation , but also our job or work , therefore, all legitimate trade should be sanctified . Reverend clergy not only is God's call , and the world of any legitimate employment is God's call . As long as there call , washing and sweeping the streets as much as for pastors and other professional , doctors, nurses generation . Martin Luther is not generally considered opposeth and exalteth the humble work , but stressed that the distinguished workers in the position before God . Even the humble such as cleaners , cleaning workers and other piecemeal work at home , if to honor God and do all things holy .
Workers are called to work on meaningful . Recognizing the significance of the work , workers would be loyal to work, strive for perfection .
Call or the concept of duty , not only encourage our dedicated and music industry can lead us to find the eternal significance of the work .
Martin Luther held high , " the priest of all believers "slogan , to teach people to have good behavior in the workplace , everything should be made for the glory of God and , although the work world , but if we dedicated hard work, any work can be a The cause of sacred significance . Therefore , all the legitimate industry can be deified , and even doing housework is to serve God . He 's such a thought , pioneered the liberation of the various industries , smashed the Middle Ages, people thought the Catholic Church on the detention . Can be said that he and Calvin and other Reformation, the thinking , to break through the darkness of the Middle Ages in Europe , to meet the development of modern technology , laid the ideological foundation.
View Calvin 's career
Another great change is Calvin taught at home .
Calvin said : "The world is our monastery . " This is a revolutionary discourse , it will focus people pulled from heaven down to earth , never pulled the present world , so that the birth of the Christian religion from the Middle Ages evolved to fit modern society involvement in the world of religion . He believes that people should " WTO practice "in this living , full of human activities and relationships in the world practice , in his career , in business management, trading profit of the various activities to practice , instead of , or live apart , or to remote mountains and penance .
Calvin on the job have said the words of a far-reaching : " Occupational word with the meaning of call ; the so-called ' call ' , but that God used his finger pointing to an individual , I want you so so To live . " In the Middle Ages , to accept call for the church than in any other occupation to be sacred , high social status . But Calvin is that : all job before God , all have equal status . A manager , businessman or a teacher apparently did not grow or produce any tangible goods , but their contribution to society is quite respectable . This view of career changes , strongly affirmed the industry was working to create entrepreneurs , businessmen and artisans on beliefs and values and social status.
Duty to treat people the dedicated hard work is the question of meaning . But the medieval people think , that man is dedicated to hard work , but because Adam criminal punishment because " the Bible, the Book of Genesis , " wrote , "You must lifelong toil from the earth to eat . " Calvin is the joy that the original meaning of work , but after the start of human crime become boring , if a person regain call , then the people will return to the work experience of the most original and going . God 's curse on Adam was not the work itself , but the work and frustration caused by boring . In Hebrew , the " hard work "means also represents the boring and painful . This hard work , and a pleasant working Adam previously represented exactly the opposite meaning ; the Garden of Eden in the work of the Adam case , but his game or entertainment .
It is said that Calvin carefully read the scriptures found in Genesis , God has a requirement to work for a living human . Therefore, if a person do not work hard and rely on others to live , is an immoral act ; as beggars dependent on the charity as a living . God will land to the man , the only condition is that he must work hard . One reason is the object of creation , but to work together with God , not to lie down and doing nothing. When God's people by land, drilling , he also cursed laziness . Therefore , nothing is a waste of life than eating and drinking to sleep in and not do anything meaningful , but also violated the law of nature .
Although the work has nothing to do with the Mongolian elections , but the Calvinist view that the success of the work and career of prosperity , is often chosen for proof of God . Thus, his theory became the cornerstone of the Puritan work ethic . Calvin Reformation who emphasized a truth that people called to the post when the due diligence . Like " the Bible says that " " Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do , to try to make , "" lazy for the Lord to act , will be cursed . " So we have to cherish the time , go all out at work .
When people in real life practice of faith , the will to engage with the sacred sense of the transaction , it would all work best. In the Calvinist view, people should be on for the best, so Christians which should be the best citizens, best business , best sailor , the best workers , the best teachers, best staff ... ... the 17th century a writer said : "We are sweeping , cleaning toilets , but also to the glory of God . " It is this reality of work and activities of religious worship , only to make people full of life and work of their own Great enthusiasm and loyalty professionalism contributed to the development of European modernization .
To want to do a good job and achieved career success , if not from the depths of philosophy and religion to grasp the essence of professional and dedicated , then the operation of our work will have three minutes when the heat . Must be clear that the theories and ideas is the true source of sustained enthusiasm for the work . Faith with the sacred nature of the work . This respect the most original inspiration from the Bible , on the other hand is the inevitable result was the Reformation .
The original meaning of work
In the " Bible " of opening the Book of Genesis , God created the heavens and the earth and people , creating also a kind of work, so work began from God . This also makes the work of nature with the sacred intrinsic value. Mankind began work begins , " Lord spared the man ( Adam ) placed in the Garden of Eden so that he repairs, guard "( " Bible Book of Genesis "). Here, the " repair guard "is a task of God to the human arrangements , is also the most original definition of human work .
In Genesis , God also who said : " Be fruitful and multiply , and replenish the ground , control the land ; also fish of the sea birds of the air , and all kinds of living thing that moves on the ground . " Here, Governance and management arrangements that were the work of God, and professional . Therefore, the people working with sacred meaning , it should never be belittled, but it should be reverent worship .
Is to belittle the work of the
Martin Luther and Calvin to teach in reform before the Catholic priest at all levels, dominated by the Pope and all , monopolizing the material and the belief that people were living . Pope and priests at all levels, self-proclaimed spokesmen for God , do not ask people to directly read the "Bible" of their own lived extravagant life and telling his followers to implement with the escapist doctrine false imprisonment , and to the believers exacting , and later even used to sell so-called Of " indulgences "to amass property . At work and occupational outlook , they preach a hamper social progress and human well-being of the doctrine .
They think the world is fallen, evil , all the world , including people's work and life are corrupt and shameful . In particular, access to wealth through the operation and activities of criminal intent in the crime . A myriad of mental occupation in the world , only the priest 's job is holy, and valuable, all other occupations worthless , very humble . One must live for the afterlife , the most important work is prayer , and a variety of complicated rituals , as this life of clothing, housing , completely dismissed .
People should disdain worldly affairs, away from the earth , prayer penance in inaccessible places , the last to enter Paradise . Is only a living , but services can not avoid trouble , but no alternative work activities . Secular labor and business activities at the time were ignored, are prohibited , and freeloader large groups of priests and beggars, but to enjoy a very high honor and courtesy . All this was greatly hindered economic development and social progress , harming people's well-being .
The new interpretation of Martin Luther
Martin Luther changed religion , the vigorous promotion of the four major principles: " Every man for priests , everyone has vocation , everyone is steward , everyone has the Bible. " He believes that every person is equal before God , and God 's call is also equal. Martin Luther emphasized that God's call are not limited to salvation , but also our job or work , therefore, all legitimate trade should be sanctified . Reverend clergy not only is God's call , and the world of any legitimate employment is God's call . As long as there call , washing and sweeping the streets as much as for pastors and other professional , doctors, nurses generation . Martin Luther is not generally considered opposeth and exalteth the humble work , but stressed that the distinguished workers in the position before God . Even the humble such as cleaners , cleaning workers and other piecemeal work at home , if to honor God and do all things holy .
Workers are called to work on meaningful . Recognizing the significance of the work , workers would be loyal to work, strive for perfection .
Call or the concept of duty , not only encourage our dedicated and music industry can lead us to find the eternal significance of the work .
Martin Luther held high , " the priest of all believers "slogan , to teach people to have good behavior in the workplace , everything should be made for the glory of God and , although the work world , but if we dedicated hard work, any work can be a The cause of sacred significance . Therefore , all the legitimate industry can be deified , and even doing housework is to serve God . He 's such a thought , pioneered the liberation of the various industries , smashed the Middle Ages, people thought the Catholic Church on the detention . Can be said that he and Calvin and other Reformation, the thinking , to break through the darkness of the Middle Ages in Europe , to meet the development of modern technology , laid the ideological foundation.
View Calvin 's career
Another great change is Calvin taught at home .
Calvin said : "The world is our monastery . " This is a revolutionary discourse , it will focus people pulled from heaven down to earth , never pulled the present world , so that the birth of the Christian religion from the Middle Ages evolved to fit modern society involvement in the world of religion . He believes that people should " WTO practice "in this living , full of human activities and relationships in the world practice , in his career , in business management, trading profit of the various activities to practice , instead of , or live apart , or to remote mountains and penance .
Calvin on the job have said the words of a far-reaching : " Occupational word with the meaning of call ; the so-called ' call ' , but that God used his finger pointing to an individual , I want you so so To live . " In the Middle Ages , to accept call for the church than in any other occupation to be sacred , high social status . But Calvin is that : all job before God , all have equal status . A manager , businessman or a teacher apparently did not grow or produce any tangible goods , but their contribution to society is quite respectable . This view of career changes , strongly affirmed the industry was working to create entrepreneurs , businessmen and artisans on beliefs and values and social status.
Duty to treat people the dedicated hard work is the question of meaning . But the medieval people think , that man is dedicated to hard work , but because Adam criminal punishment because " the Bible, the Book of Genesis , " wrote , "You must lifelong toil from the earth to eat . " Calvin is the joy that the original meaning of work , but after the start of human crime become boring , if a person regain call , then the people will return to the work experience of the most original and going . God 's curse on Adam was not the work itself , but the work and frustration caused by boring . In Hebrew , the " hard work "means also represents the boring and painful . This hard work , and a pleasant working Adam previously represented exactly the opposite meaning ; the Garden of Eden in the work of the Adam case , but his game or entertainment .
It is said that Calvin carefully read the scriptures found in Genesis , God has a requirement to work for a living human . Therefore, if a person do not work hard and rely on others to live , is an immoral act ; as beggars dependent on the charity as a living . God will land to the man , the only condition is that he must work hard . One reason is the object of creation , but to work together with God , not to lie down and doing nothing. When God's people by land, drilling , he also cursed laziness . Therefore , nothing is a waste of life than eating and drinking to sleep in and not do anything meaningful , but also violated the law of nature .
Although the work has nothing to do with the Mongolian elections , but the Calvinist view that the success of the work and career of prosperity , is often chosen for proof of God . Thus, his theory became the cornerstone of the Puritan work ethic . Calvin Reformation who emphasized a truth that people called to the post when the due diligence . Like " the Bible says that " " Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do , to try to make , "" lazy for the Lord to act , will be cursed . " So we have to cherish the time , go all out at work .
When people in real life practice of faith , the will to engage with the sacred sense of the transaction , it would all work best. In the Calvinist view, people should be on for the best, so Christians which should be the best citizens, best business , best sailor , the best workers , the best teachers, best staff ... ... the 17th century a writer said : "We are sweeping , cleaning toilets , but also to the glory of God . " It is this reality of work and activities of religious worship , only to make people full of life and work of their own Great enthusiasm and loyalty professionalism contributed to the development of European modernization .
2010年9月19日星期日
15 years old story
Anne 15 years old this spring , she is very happy . She performed well in school , popularity is also very good , is the choir in the pillars . But to Anne , the Xiao Ke the most attractive boys in school is the most important , he often accompanied his recent walk home . He has 17 years of age , with a pair of bright black eyes , staring at her when , as the stars of heaven . Anne often indulge in dreams of love . She dreams of two men walking hand in hand , whispers . As long as his name was mentioned she would be heart rate , body excited .
One day, two men sitting in the riverbank frequented . Xiao Ke Anne started to do some different usual stroking . This allows Annie shiver , suddenly he felt very nervous. She thought parents would be more sad if you know , because they have been taught the intimate relationship between men and women should be retained until after marriage .
"I think we can not do this. " Anne whispered while gently push the open side of Xiao Ke .
"Why not? " Xiao Ke asked , "I feel very comfortable , right? "
Anne heart can not deny indeed feel uncomfortable, but another small heart with the voice of the call , " Stop! this is not possible ! "
Although this day Xiao Ke 's hand stopped , but since then will be repeated every afternoon . As long as Anne and Xiao Ke alone, Xiao Ke 's hands should not go to straight places .
"Do not you love me? " Xiao Ke always ask. "If you love me, do not refuse me that ! "
Anne loss . She did not want to lose Xiao Ke , who is so clever , funny and handsome, but every time he touched her so that her heart would burst as the storm tossed like a contradiction , though she kept saying : " No! "But to prevent He became more and more difficult.
Anne from school one afternoon not seen her around for Xiao Ke of the trace , in her almost give up, see Xiao Ke arms around a girl named Emily . Like Emily is 17 years old with Xiao Ke . In addition, her boyfriend still fooling around all day with many different reputation .
"What are you doing this? " cried Anne asked .
When the very popular little surprised to see her back , he whispered a few words with Emily , after coming to Ann .
" What are you doing with her ? " Anne asked again , her whole body feels cold a while , then said, "I thought you loved me . "
"Oh, " Xiao Ke said coldly , "You do not love me , because you refused to go to bed with me , right ? But Emily now go to bed , so I see her more than you love me . "
Anne almost to tears flowed , Xiao Ke came over , shook her hand and whispered , "Do not cry ! " Emily also look at whether the hearing . "I'm sorry , I mean just look at Emily , you are my favorite , I am asking you to prove to me how you love me in the end , Annie ! "
Xiao Ke Anne wanted her to know how to " prove " her love. In an instant , she thought, "Maybe I should have sex with him . Anyway, is not a big deal , we are love you . " She looked at Emily , suddenly remembered that she suffered at home to teach . She also reminded the teacher in class, speaking on AIDS (AIDS) words. AIDS (AIDS) can be transmitted through sexual relations from female to male or female by the male transmission . Anne thought about the relationship between Emily and many men have , including Xiao Ke . When the very popular when she saw a beautiful pair of black eyes looking forward , looking at her when the tears start falling Anne . She quietly made a prayer will not be looking forward to Emily Xiao Ke contracted sexually transmitted diseases .
"I do not now have sexual relations , Xiao Ke , "she said to him , her wipe tears , said: "Sex is for marriage preparation , and if pre-marital sexual relations, will bring a lot of problems. "
" Like what? " Xiao Ke holding arms , mourning asked .
For example, pregnancy , there is infected with HIV (AIDS) or other sexually transmitted diseases . "She a long breath , trying to calm his trembling voice , "If you really want to love me like you said , you should not allow me to take the possibility of contracting the risk of the disease die , but willing to Join me wait sex marriage is the safest time to the most correct . "
Xiao Ke hand in Annie 's shoulder is very to shook , Tang Di along the body trembling . "You're absolutely ridiculous , " Then, he softly said , "Well, we talk to the old place now! "
Anne鼓足了勇气, stepped back , his hand falling from her body . "No , " she said calmly but firmly , "I can be your friend, but I think we do not go out for a separate , if you have other ideas , I see you still look for others! "
Xiao Ke sighed again , he looks a little discouraged , he turned round back to Emily 's side .
In Anne 's mind there are two strong emotional reaction , a painful , because she a clean break with Xiao Ke to this most difficult decision ; but she surprised to find another emotion is joy ! She was proud of my own choice , not just to her family happy , but also for her own future partner feel happy . She did not do their own bodies that the stakes adventure , and no white sacrifice their precious self-esteem.
Xiao Ke and Emily saw the departure of Anne for his promise of a promise: from now on, I respect and understand me, and can discern interaction of sex and love boys .
One day, two men sitting in the riverbank frequented . Xiao Ke Anne started to do some different usual stroking . This allows Annie shiver , suddenly he felt very nervous. She thought parents would be more sad if you know , because they have been taught the intimate relationship between men and women should be retained until after marriage .
"I think we can not do this. " Anne whispered while gently push the open side of Xiao Ke .
"Why not? " Xiao Ke asked , "I feel very comfortable , right? "
Anne heart can not deny indeed feel uncomfortable, but another small heart with the voice of the call , " Stop! this is not possible ! "
Although this day Xiao Ke 's hand stopped , but since then will be repeated every afternoon . As long as Anne and Xiao Ke alone, Xiao Ke 's hands should not go to straight places .
"Do not you love me? " Xiao Ke always ask. "If you love me, do not refuse me that ! "
Anne loss . She did not want to lose Xiao Ke , who is so clever , funny and handsome, but every time he touched her so that her heart would burst as the storm tossed like a contradiction , though she kept saying : " No! "But to prevent He became more and more difficult.
Anne from school one afternoon not seen her around for Xiao Ke of the trace , in her almost give up, see Xiao Ke arms around a girl named Emily . Like Emily is 17 years old with Xiao Ke . In addition, her boyfriend still fooling around all day with many different reputation .
"What are you doing this? " cried Anne asked .
When the very popular little surprised to see her back , he whispered a few words with Emily , after coming to Ann .
" What are you doing with her ? " Anne asked again , her whole body feels cold a while , then said, "I thought you loved me . "
"Oh, " Xiao Ke said coldly , "You do not love me , because you refused to go to bed with me , right ? But Emily now go to bed , so I see her more than you love me . "
Anne almost to tears flowed , Xiao Ke came over , shook her hand and whispered , "Do not cry ! " Emily also look at whether the hearing . "I'm sorry , I mean just look at Emily , you are my favorite , I am asking you to prove to me how you love me in the end , Annie ! "
Xiao Ke Anne wanted her to know how to " prove " her love. In an instant , she thought, "Maybe I should have sex with him . Anyway, is not a big deal , we are love you . " She looked at Emily , suddenly remembered that she suffered at home to teach . She also reminded the teacher in class, speaking on AIDS (AIDS) words. AIDS (AIDS) can be transmitted through sexual relations from female to male or female by the male transmission . Anne thought about the relationship between Emily and many men have , including Xiao Ke . When the very popular when she saw a beautiful pair of black eyes looking forward , looking at her when the tears start falling Anne . She quietly made a prayer will not be looking forward to Emily Xiao Ke contracted sexually transmitted diseases .
"I do not now have sexual relations , Xiao Ke , "she said to him , her wipe tears , said: "Sex is for marriage preparation , and if pre-marital sexual relations, will bring a lot of problems. "
" Like what? " Xiao Ke holding arms , mourning asked .
For example, pregnancy , there is infected with HIV (AIDS) or other sexually transmitted diseases . "She a long breath , trying to calm his trembling voice , "If you really want to love me like you said , you should not allow me to take the possibility of contracting the risk of the disease die , but willing to Join me wait sex marriage is the safest time to the most correct . "
Xiao Ke hand in Annie 's shoulder is very to shook , Tang Di along the body trembling . "You're absolutely ridiculous , " Then, he softly said , "Well, we talk to the old place now! "
Anne鼓足了勇气, stepped back , his hand falling from her body . "No , " she said calmly but firmly , "I can be your friend, but I think we do not go out for a separate , if you have other ideas , I see you still look for others! "
Xiao Ke sighed again , he looks a little discouraged , he turned round back to Emily 's side .
In Anne 's mind there are two strong emotional reaction , a painful , because she a clean break with Xiao Ke to this most difficult decision ; but she surprised to find another emotion is joy ! She was proud of my own choice , not just to her family happy , but also for her own future partner feel happy . She did not do their own bodies that the stakes adventure , and no white sacrifice their precious self-esteem.
Xiao Ke and Emily saw the departure of Anne for his promise of a promise: from now on, I respect and understand me, and can discern interaction of sex and love boys .
2010年9月8日星期三
The secret of happiness : make life "slow " a little
In this competitive age, need not be too hard , we have run a high-speed roads . Busy seems to make us feel safe . However , rapid rush of life , not let us inner peace . On the contrary, brought about by physical heart overdraft anxiety, boredom , apathy , numbness , and increasingly fragile health ... ... have been deeply hurt our happiness .
Busy so that we can not extricate themselves addicted to the details of life , no time to take into account the mind , no time to listen to your inner voice , but no time to look around people 's needs. We have lost the "slow "capability , and even vacation travel , are flying from one attraction to another attraction , would not " waste " some time.
We are accustomed to living together from many used to stay up late to work overtime , used to busy living state ... ... and peace of mind - because it is better for the future well-being , anyway, to make things better for their families !
However, we do not know : When we are weighed down with work for a living, when life has left us . Well-being , has left us .
Make life a bit slower ! This slow , not do not work hard and reap the profits , not give up the responsibility, "slow "is a kind of attitude towards life , the wisdom of a balanced life .
A seriously ill friend said she had loved to work very put , marriage is still two days before the overtime . She walked into her office the American boss drive her home and told her: people dying , not because they do not someday regret over overtime , only because there is no more time to spend with family and remorse .
Until it got sick , she knew cogency . However , the cost has been too heavy .
With this simple but profound book called "missing corner . " That there is a round , missing a corner , and looked to find , on the road to chat with the wild flowers , and birds singing ... ... One day, it finally found the corner , into a complete circle , so can not be controlled quickly scroll all the way Flew forward . However , it no longer have the opportunity to know new friends roadside , not in the mood to sing ... ... the end, it gently down to that corner and continue to do that though incomplete , but a happy return to the circle .
Perhaps , busy and can not stop people , both inside and insecurity , there is a perfectionist tendencies . We would not have limited his face , refused to accept life itself , must become the eyes of others a perfect circle , must use the fastest sprint forward ... ... We do not know , it will miss it already belongs to us Happiness .
Let us slow down ! Let us enough time to collect the road on both sides of the happiness and joy . Had time to listen to good soothing nature , in time with relatives and friends to share quiet time , fully appreciate love and be loved , had time for everyone smile , and from the heart.
Let us slow down , let the people around us slow down , so we have time , not tied by time . Let us be wise in time , not lose . Let us accompany with their families feel for God has given us this rich and beautiful world.
If the pace of life is too hurried , often miss life's most precious blessing .
Willing to share the following four articles , look to give you some advise !
Article one: husband , slow down !
Wen / Chen Caitang
Day, her husband rushed House Report news to me : "I like to see Dong-Sheng Cheng was promoted to vice president, then I just work is so active when the fever ! "I looked at him , then seems to have thrown herself headlong into the whirlpool of ignorance and not working Shameless , it seems fortunate that they have seen through the work of the bottomless pit trap , and finally escaped easily .
Dong-Sheng Cheng was her husband's colleagues, had just transferred to Hong Kong, Shanghai , will take over the company's sales operations in Asia , only 40 -year-old , is the husband, the former vice president of a company 's age .
Her husband got a promotion , changed the whole life
Then vice president of her husband stepped on the throne , my heart flew up into the clouds as if intoxicated , will not only post high, salary increases , bonuses and stock accumulation there too!
In addition, the annual vice president of the United States, Europe and Asia , co-chaired three major areas , the District issued sales staff merit awards , the company free to the winners of three days in Paris, France , Spain, Barcelona and other world-class tourist attractions , Madame President, I have this pair of Is about to accompany her husband , and glorified in my life. So I intend to work with the needs of her husband , let him have to worry about .
Husband's new broom sweeps clean , energetic , Now they fly in India , sometimes of the Republic of Korea , where there is business , go out into where to go . Once he went to work early in the morning , afternoon I received a phone call , others are in Tokyo. That morning I had to go out , he needs to travel the interim , I do not go home with your luggage at home , a rush to write even a note is too late to go on the rush to the airport .
While coming home after work is no longer boast that he never had business to take home the lofty image of the . Home after supper , he began to phone around the outside . One night a week regular telephone conference , the United States, Europe and Asia districts 1 , 20 people on the phone line to discuss progress in performance status , and once at night time but yet he returned to the room , I opened the study door , surprised to find that He lay on the ground , soundly dreams , and hands still tightly holding a telephone .
Living together from many couples change " singles "
Husband is often deployed to work in the USA . Although busy , still trying to play the good father 's role , the children 's summer vacation , he always arranged holiday with us . The first winter vacation from Shanghai to Hong Kong, Singapore , I'm so excited the whole family have a relaxing holiday . Much to our surprise Hong Kong and Singapore , he was not a customer is to the office to see the results off a Chengxing away , back disappointed. Alas ! Such leave does not matter whether degree !
Soon the boss came silently adolescence has always been a docile son, also cried actually talk back , spinning in I can not find another pillar of the family , lamented that her is simply a single mother ! Then puberty so her second child , we not seen for several years Now they meet next minute the day , both sides strive to adapt the fact that we have each work independently .
Last year, the youngest son left home to go to college , I learned the famous words of the Bible Ruth said to her husband : " Where you go , I have gone, where you stay , where I also stay . " husband How can we say ? But I noticed he was not a trace of excited , my heart is also a slight fear of starting a share , after many years of separation date , as if we each become a " singles "again!
Had a revelation : I had an accomplice
I even insisted to our house door to Shanghai , there is no attachment to fly the American new shelter , to adapt from the marriage.
One day , when I look at the front of the computer to concentrate on work is the husband of a sudden heart of a dynamic , instant understand.
Oh ! I had an accomplice ! Enthusiasm over the years her husband's work is the side I cheered and fan the flames . Front of my cheerleaders often said: "My husband ! performance this year to get your highest score , amazing! "" My husband ! extra bonus this year , great! "listen to the ears of her husband not be better doing his job , more non-stop To running around ?
In this amazing discovery , I quickly changed his tune : "My husband ! slow down , not to charge forward , they do not get fired , who cares what performance bonuses ! "
The accidental husband, Dong-Sheng Cheng from colleagues who saw his own shadow that year , he shook his head sympathetically : "Let him out! " But I know that , if necessary, I still have to remind him: "My husband , slow down ! "
When you realize that : the cost of their non-stop busy , at the expense of family life, is the time to let go .
Article 2 : Do not do workaholic
Text / Elaine Minamide Translation / Zhou Ming-yi
Jia Ying is a workaholic !
Pretty capable , she is the age of 24 became a well-known global total distribution area of cosmetics . Now, 40 years old , she is not only a jewelry designer , shopping mall fashion show producer , is a flourishing interior design business owner , a volunteer association 's chairman , and she was the mother of a pair of twins !
Jia Ying 's life seems enviable , but no need to look closely , even she herself can tell : These look stunning titles and responsibilities, not only depleted her energy , but also greatly affected her family life. Often the day, her home is ruined and disorderly - 22:00 , Jiaying off with weary steps at home , ready to check the check children's homework . Daughter lying asleep early , and book press in the face, light wide open ; son is still busy looking for ready-made materials at home , to meet tomorrow 's hand- school class . Jiaying tired I just want immediately fell asleep , but the fridge has been empty , and no clean clothes to change , even bathing soap has run out . Her husband had just finished meeting the company back , a look at home in this way , had to immediately turn around to go straight to the supermarket to buy things .
Workaholic is " addicted "
" I was always too busy confusing , " Jia Ying lamented : "My house a mess , my husband has a belly full of grievances, they blame me for good . he will share part of the household , often delay their work. In fact, I do not mind Feel better , this situation leads to the inevitable crisis of the family , never envisioned by the year of our family life . "
" workaholic " is worse than " alcohol "," network addiction , "" video game crazy "and so on , seem "noble " more . However , it is a gradual and subtle disease that infected this disease , will become resentful . The " workaholic "children , usually immune incompetence also suffered , and then the adult may easily lead to a failed marriage , to depression , emotional instability .
You may think that only successful to deserve "workaholic" crown ? It is not. Done anything the first person , can join the ranks . Diane • Faso in her book " do die "in his book : Social encourage workaholic , so most people do not consciously think that , as long as good things are worth any sacrifice . Ironically, even many willing to lay down their career and devote herself full-time parenting her mother will be infected as a workaholic . "Everyone thought that since you do not work , there is time! "a full-time mother , said: " In addition to care of the family and the children, you can not help thinking that their time should be fully packed . "
Inner sense of insecurity
Now many professional women , work as hard as men . Home still want to be a good wife and good mother. Dragged his exhausted body under the kitchen , household chores , teach your children ... ... When can not be perfect, or even a complete mess , it is difficult being a distraction from the frustration and even despair, she will gradually erode .
The full-time housewives who are busy all day , and even participated in many community activities are also to be at home to prove they are not just a " cook woman ", but 18 's a strong woman as well versed in martial arts .
Really hide behind these women workaholic , is lurking in the heart of the unrest . Even Jiaying admitted : "When I really stop and think , I found their work and volunteer for a volunteer 's motivation is often selfish . I hope that others with admiration , that I played a strong role in the success , These ideas far more than a simple service motive . "
How can I get rid of it workaholic addiction ? First of all, you have to identify their real problems . When you realize that : the cost of their non-stop busy , at the expense of family life, is the time to let go .
From the Learn to say " no "to the beginning
Although Jiaying not from the " workaholic " in the ranks of relief , but she has gradually aware of their problems. As long as she found himself unable to extricate themselves wholeheartedly into the work , she remembered the friend and mentor Dan morning . "I learned to Dan Chen said 'no' , " Jia Ying said: " In general, some good things she said 'no' , so she could to better things - her family and her soul said, 'good' . "
Jia Ying Chen Dan decided to begin to learn .
Ten Steps to a balanced life :
1 . aware of their problems.
2 . to find someone by your side with you to fulfill the established schedule .
3 . to activities outside the home half .
4 . more less attitude .
5 . for their own arrangements for a " nothing out of danger " time.
6 . according to plan , and a limited time .
7 . Do not just want to give the child , family "quality time "(Quality time), to give " a lot of time "(Quantity time).
8 . cherish the moment the immediate and the children get along , because the fleeting , in the future you can not have another opportunity .
9 . " world is a time for everything , " everything you do not hurry to do now , keep the original plan , step by step you can .
10 . If you are a workaholic , quickly found a psychiatrist, counseling , or to regret the . Workaholic symptoms are usually wears a cloak of emotional problems , such as: depression , low self-affirmation , etc. . May wish to consider to find a reliable expert to talk about .
Article 3 : family benefits were lots of meals
Text / Madian
Adhere to the family of meals Blessed !
Forgotten family dinner table
According to the latest survey shows that three-quarters of family members, morning and evening meals with their families the opportunity to eat only 50 %, there is no alternative , of course , but more is based on lifestyle choices . They think that sitting at home in the dining room table , simply can not work overtime or on the gym and the importance of comparison .
Many reasons , of course , the work style of change is one of them. Today's traffic conditions , one must spend more time on the road , and employers want employees to work longer hours .
Increase in working women is also one of the reasons . Wives spent time and effort in the kitchen greatly reduced their household goods in machines by the weekend has already been very easy.
Also, walking the streets every three , Five Steps have fast-food chain or convenience store , advertised fast and cheap , plus a variety of advertisers gimmicks , they want to offer is modern , but not necessarily healthy Fast food , the modern concept of nutrition has been getting weaker and weaker .
Love , time to pay
Family warm at the dinner table chat scene , are slowly becoming a rarity . We have very little or not listen to his family a good day today , very few casually joke, or something defense flushed . With family members, we rarely face the challenge of the report to be submitted , or share an important commercial telephone communications ... ...
Love of the group of Dr. Du Busen so busy suffocating parents advice : " want to be good parents need to spend time. listen to how the children fell below the knee will take time ; listen to their children that the birds How broken wings need time . but time is the cornerstone of building mutual respect , love of the family is bound together . " However, he burst in the modern busy schedule does not go in gradually row .
Traditional family values is to allow families a sense of identity and belonging . We do not want with a group of busy with people living under one roof , we need to be aware of our uniqueness , character and value of living in the home .
Definitely worth
Over the years, my wife and I have always felt that family dinner is very natural. Of course, this means that you do not eat breakfast than those who get up earlier , also said that even if the office there is a lot of work to do, you have to put it received a briefcase , would rather do so little later . Over the past 25 years, we have proved the effect of family meals , all the sacrifice is worth it.
The following is one of the most significant results.
One of the benefits : to make nutritionally balanced family
" When I was preparing for a group of kindergarten -year-old child to do the screening , "a pediatrician , said: " I found that children with anemia and many other issues , since these parents have kids playing all the vaccinations , I would like to Ask them to do one thing - be sure to follow with their children eat a hearty breakfast, let them go to school . "
Harvard Medical School and the latest research report , regular meals with their parents were the children grow up to be cancer, heart or nervous system diseases, than the long years of their children eating less . Because the latter often do not eat fruits and vegetables , and eating too much "junk food . "
The second advantage : to enhance the feelings of family members
Meal the child time to chat with the adults , but the work pressure or family budgets, not a topic discussed at this time , because this is the intimate family time . Meal suitable topic such as " today's fun to say to us who share ah ? "or" What are your feelings on this matter ? " or " what the plans this weekend ? "
We also have another strict rules : If you can not praise the food on the table , then say nothing . This rule does not cook, especially on the side to be strictly enforced.
The third benefit : The affectionate message
Stable and regular meal times , regardless of the content of the food is rich or simple , will send a message to the child , is: "Some people put in some effort for me , I was really concerned about the needs of every day , it was really good to me . "
Sometimes a meal is really a little trouble , we have to adjust the timetable, but this is not what we as parents responsibility?
Although modern life so that we have to face additional pressure , but we do not bow to the environment . Children have the right to get what they deserve a day of food . When we take good care of children in the diet , the kind of happiness is often not particularly open fire to the family can never understand .
Article 4 : Dr. Du tell you: a woman how to relieve anxiety ?
1 . Do not change things in the struggle .
Want to have a sound psychological , the first principle is to learn to accept the fact can not be changed , otherwise it will drive the same as stepping on the brake , simply could not move. A woman might be " something in addition to other things are going well "; she was healthy , her husband loves her children very happy, affluence , life is not boring . However, she is likely because the Department does not come with her mother , I felt incredibly sad day . She let the negative factors to all the wonderful things around .
Today I do not know how many women are dissatisfied, not only because of some unnecessary luxury . We should be aware of dissatisfaction and complaints will become a habit , this attitude will make you pay the price , so you can not enjoy life 's pleasures .
2 . To reserve for themselves a little time.
If you do housewife in the home , and too busy to take care of the child , then sometimes have to satisfy my needs, play at least once a week to play , or shopping , dance aerobics , and even free time you can spend an afternoon . Is always very healthy, her mother if fixed to relieve feelings of leisure activities the whole family will benefit.
More importantly , we must protect marriage of love . Should be weekly or once every two weeks and her husband go out to date , temporarily put aside the issue that day , take mine. The two men get along with spending money , the benefits far exceeding the over- bought piece of furniture or a new dress . If a woman knows that he is her husband's lover , not just the wife , life would be more pleasant.
3 . Do not deal with major problems in the evening .
Tired of the person's cognitive ability has a great influence , through hard work , a busy day , even the most simple things people find it difficult to face . All the questions in the evening seems to have become difficult to resolve , when decisions are often emotional than rational . Discussions often turn into an unnecessary argument , in fact, stay as long as the main thing to talk about the morning , you can avoid this kind of pressure and hostility. A good night's sleep , the next morning and then brew a cup of coffee , very helpful to solve the problem .
4 . Try to work out the project .
Often work to the done to help alleviate the pressure out . To write down things that do have three advantages: (1 ) you know you will not forget ; (2 ) ensure that the most important thing you can not miss that way , even if that day did not get things done , at least the most important What has been done ; (3 ) things done on the cross out , you can leave a complete record.
Little Links:
Earlier this year, a slow tune , Italy proposed the establishment of organizational life " living on the international transfer slow (SLOW DAY) ". The American journalist Carl Honoré • Create a " Find your lost time "campaign every year from four years ago at the time the General Assembly , proposed to the U.S. Congress on October 24 of each year named the "official non- watch day " . They called on people to throw away my alarm clock and watch and find out who was working misuse of free time, looking for a relaxed lifestyle , people can fully enjoy the freedom to enjoy the convenience of high-tech civilization , not a slave to do the time and technology .
Busy so that we can not extricate themselves addicted to the details of life , no time to take into account the mind , no time to listen to your inner voice , but no time to look around people 's needs. We have lost the "slow "capability , and even vacation travel , are flying from one attraction to another attraction , would not " waste " some time.
We are accustomed to living together from many used to stay up late to work overtime , used to busy living state ... ... and peace of mind - because it is better for the future well-being , anyway, to make things better for their families !
However, we do not know : When we are weighed down with work for a living, when life has left us . Well-being , has left us .
Make life a bit slower ! This slow , not do not work hard and reap the profits , not give up the responsibility, "slow "is a kind of attitude towards life , the wisdom of a balanced life .
A seriously ill friend said she had loved to work very put , marriage is still two days before the overtime . She walked into her office the American boss drive her home and told her: people dying , not because they do not someday regret over overtime , only because there is no more time to spend with family and remorse .
Until it got sick , she knew cogency . However , the cost has been too heavy .
With this simple but profound book called "missing corner . " That there is a round , missing a corner , and looked to find , on the road to chat with the wild flowers , and birds singing ... ... One day, it finally found the corner , into a complete circle , so can not be controlled quickly scroll all the way Flew forward . However , it no longer have the opportunity to know new friends roadside , not in the mood to sing ... ... the end, it gently down to that corner and continue to do that though incomplete , but a happy return to the circle .
Perhaps , busy and can not stop people , both inside and insecurity , there is a perfectionist tendencies . We would not have limited his face , refused to accept life itself , must become the eyes of others a perfect circle , must use the fastest sprint forward ... ... We do not know , it will miss it already belongs to us Happiness .
Let us slow down ! Let us enough time to collect the road on both sides of the happiness and joy . Had time to listen to good soothing nature , in time with relatives and friends to share quiet time , fully appreciate love and be loved , had time for everyone smile , and from the heart.
Let us slow down , let the people around us slow down , so we have time , not tied by time . Let us be wise in time , not lose . Let us accompany with their families feel for God has given us this rich and beautiful world.
If the pace of life is too hurried , often miss life's most precious blessing .
Willing to share the following four articles , look to give you some advise !
Article one: husband , slow down !
Wen / Chen Caitang
Day, her husband rushed House Report news to me : "I like to see Dong-Sheng Cheng was promoted to vice president, then I just work is so active when the fever ! "I looked at him , then seems to have thrown herself headlong into the whirlpool of ignorance and not working Shameless , it seems fortunate that they have seen through the work of the bottomless pit trap , and finally escaped easily .
Dong-Sheng Cheng was her husband's colleagues, had just transferred to Hong Kong, Shanghai , will take over the company's sales operations in Asia , only 40 -year-old , is the husband, the former vice president of a company 's age .
Her husband got a promotion , changed the whole life
Then vice president of her husband stepped on the throne , my heart flew up into the clouds as if intoxicated , will not only post high, salary increases , bonuses and stock accumulation there too!
In addition, the annual vice president of the United States, Europe and Asia , co-chaired three major areas , the District issued sales staff merit awards , the company free to the winners of three days in Paris, France , Spain, Barcelona and other world-class tourist attractions , Madame President, I have this pair of Is about to accompany her husband , and glorified in my life. So I intend to work with the needs of her husband , let him have to worry about .
Husband's new broom sweeps clean , energetic , Now they fly in India , sometimes of the Republic of Korea , where there is business , go out into where to go . Once he went to work early in the morning , afternoon I received a phone call , others are in Tokyo. That morning I had to go out , he needs to travel the interim , I do not go home with your luggage at home , a rush to write even a note is too late to go on the rush to the airport .
While coming home after work is no longer boast that he never had business to take home the lofty image of the . Home after supper , he began to phone around the outside . One night a week regular telephone conference , the United States, Europe and Asia districts 1 , 20 people on the phone line to discuss progress in performance status , and once at night time but yet he returned to the room , I opened the study door , surprised to find that He lay on the ground , soundly dreams , and hands still tightly holding a telephone .
Living together from many couples change " singles "
Husband is often deployed to work in the USA . Although busy , still trying to play the good father 's role , the children 's summer vacation , he always arranged holiday with us . The first winter vacation from Shanghai to Hong Kong, Singapore , I'm so excited the whole family have a relaxing holiday . Much to our surprise Hong Kong and Singapore , he was not a customer is to the office to see the results off a Chengxing away , back disappointed. Alas ! Such leave does not matter whether degree !
Soon the boss came silently adolescence has always been a docile son, also cried actually talk back , spinning in I can not find another pillar of the family , lamented that her is simply a single mother ! Then puberty so her second child , we not seen for several years Now they meet next minute the day , both sides strive to adapt the fact that we have each work independently .
Last year, the youngest son left home to go to college , I learned the famous words of the Bible Ruth said to her husband : " Where you go , I have gone, where you stay , where I also stay . " husband How can we say ? But I noticed he was not a trace of excited , my heart is also a slight fear of starting a share , after many years of separation date , as if we each become a " singles "again!
Had a revelation : I had an accomplice
I even insisted to our house door to Shanghai , there is no attachment to fly the American new shelter , to adapt from the marriage.
One day , when I look at the front of the computer to concentrate on work is the husband of a sudden heart of a dynamic , instant understand.
Oh ! I had an accomplice ! Enthusiasm over the years her husband's work is the side I cheered and fan the flames . Front of my cheerleaders often said: "My husband ! performance this year to get your highest score , amazing! "" My husband ! extra bonus this year , great! "listen to the ears of her husband not be better doing his job , more non-stop To running around ?
In this amazing discovery , I quickly changed his tune : "My husband ! slow down , not to charge forward , they do not get fired , who cares what performance bonuses ! "
The accidental husband, Dong-Sheng Cheng from colleagues who saw his own shadow that year , he shook his head sympathetically : "Let him out! " But I know that , if necessary, I still have to remind him: "My husband , slow down ! "
When you realize that : the cost of their non-stop busy , at the expense of family life, is the time to let go .
Article 2 : Do not do workaholic
Text / Elaine Minamide Translation / Zhou Ming-yi
Jia Ying is a workaholic !
Pretty capable , she is the age of 24 became a well-known global total distribution area of cosmetics . Now, 40 years old , she is not only a jewelry designer , shopping mall fashion show producer , is a flourishing interior design business owner , a volunteer association 's chairman , and she was the mother of a pair of twins !
Jia Ying 's life seems enviable , but no need to look closely , even she herself can tell : These look stunning titles and responsibilities, not only depleted her energy , but also greatly affected her family life. Often the day, her home is ruined and disorderly - 22:00 , Jiaying off with weary steps at home , ready to check the check children's homework . Daughter lying asleep early , and book press in the face, light wide open ; son is still busy looking for ready-made materials at home , to meet tomorrow 's hand- school class . Jiaying tired I just want immediately fell asleep , but the fridge has been empty , and no clean clothes to change , even bathing soap has run out . Her husband had just finished meeting the company back , a look at home in this way , had to immediately turn around to go straight to the supermarket to buy things .
Workaholic is " addicted "
" I was always too busy confusing , " Jia Ying lamented : "My house a mess , my husband has a belly full of grievances, they blame me for good . he will share part of the household , often delay their work. In fact, I do not mind Feel better , this situation leads to the inevitable crisis of the family , never envisioned by the year of our family life . "
" workaholic " is worse than " alcohol "," network addiction , "" video game crazy "and so on , seem "noble " more . However , it is a gradual and subtle disease that infected this disease , will become resentful . The " workaholic "children , usually immune incompetence also suffered , and then the adult may easily lead to a failed marriage , to depression , emotional instability .
You may think that only successful to deserve "workaholic" crown ? It is not. Done anything the first person , can join the ranks . Diane • Faso in her book " do die "in his book : Social encourage workaholic , so most people do not consciously think that , as long as good things are worth any sacrifice . Ironically, even many willing to lay down their career and devote herself full-time parenting her mother will be infected as a workaholic . "Everyone thought that since you do not work , there is time! "a full-time mother , said: " In addition to care of the family and the children, you can not help thinking that their time should be fully packed . "
Inner sense of insecurity
Now many professional women , work as hard as men . Home still want to be a good wife and good mother. Dragged his exhausted body under the kitchen , household chores , teach your children ... ... When can not be perfect, or even a complete mess , it is difficult being a distraction from the frustration and even despair, she will gradually erode .
The full-time housewives who are busy all day , and even participated in many community activities are also to be at home to prove they are not just a " cook woman ", but 18 's a strong woman as well versed in martial arts .
Really hide behind these women workaholic , is lurking in the heart of the unrest . Even Jiaying admitted : "When I really stop and think , I found their work and volunteer for a volunteer 's motivation is often selfish . I hope that others with admiration , that I played a strong role in the success , These ideas far more than a simple service motive . "
How can I get rid of it workaholic addiction ? First of all, you have to identify their real problems . When you realize that : the cost of their non-stop busy , at the expense of family life, is the time to let go .
From the Learn to say " no "to the beginning
Although Jiaying not from the " workaholic " in the ranks of relief , but she has gradually aware of their problems. As long as she found himself unable to extricate themselves wholeheartedly into the work , she remembered the friend and mentor Dan morning . "I learned to Dan Chen said 'no' , " Jia Ying said: " In general, some good things she said 'no' , so she could to better things - her family and her soul said, 'good' . "
Jia Ying Chen Dan decided to begin to learn .
Ten Steps to a balanced life :
1 . aware of their problems.
2 . to find someone by your side with you to fulfill the established schedule .
3 . to activities outside the home half .
4 . more less attitude .
5 . for their own arrangements for a " nothing out of danger " time.
6 . according to plan , and a limited time .
7 . Do not just want to give the child , family "quality time "(Quality time), to give " a lot of time "(Quantity time).
8 . cherish the moment the immediate and the children get along , because the fleeting , in the future you can not have another opportunity .
9 . " world is a time for everything , " everything you do not hurry to do now , keep the original plan , step by step you can .
10 . If you are a workaholic , quickly found a psychiatrist, counseling , or to regret the . Workaholic symptoms are usually wears a cloak of emotional problems , such as: depression , low self-affirmation , etc. . May wish to consider to find a reliable expert to talk about .
Article 3 : family benefits were lots of meals
Text / Madian
Adhere to the family of meals Blessed !
Forgotten family dinner table
According to the latest survey shows that three-quarters of family members, morning and evening meals with their families the opportunity to eat only 50 %, there is no alternative , of course , but more is based on lifestyle choices . They think that sitting at home in the dining room table , simply can not work overtime or on the gym and the importance of comparison .
Many reasons , of course , the work style of change is one of them. Today's traffic conditions , one must spend more time on the road , and employers want employees to work longer hours .
Increase in working women is also one of the reasons . Wives spent time and effort in the kitchen greatly reduced their household goods in machines by the weekend has already been very easy.
Also, walking the streets every three , Five Steps have fast-food chain or convenience store , advertised fast and cheap , plus a variety of advertisers gimmicks , they want to offer is modern , but not necessarily healthy Fast food , the modern concept of nutrition has been getting weaker and weaker .
Love , time to pay
Family warm at the dinner table chat scene , are slowly becoming a rarity . We have very little or not listen to his family a good day today , very few casually joke, or something defense flushed . With family members, we rarely face the challenge of the report to be submitted , or share an important commercial telephone communications ... ...
Love of the group of Dr. Du Busen so busy suffocating parents advice : " want to be good parents need to spend time. listen to how the children fell below the knee will take time ; listen to their children that the birds How broken wings need time . but time is the cornerstone of building mutual respect , love of the family is bound together . " However, he burst in the modern busy schedule does not go in gradually row .
Traditional family values is to allow families a sense of identity and belonging . We do not want with a group of busy with people living under one roof , we need to be aware of our uniqueness , character and value of living in the home .
Definitely worth
Over the years, my wife and I have always felt that family dinner is very natural. Of course, this means that you do not eat breakfast than those who get up earlier , also said that even if the office there is a lot of work to do, you have to put it received a briefcase , would rather do so little later . Over the past 25 years, we have proved the effect of family meals , all the sacrifice is worth it.
The following is one of the most significant results.
One of the benefits : to make nutritionally balanced family
" When I was preparing for a group of kindergarten -year-old child to do the screening , "a pediatrician , said: " I found that children with anemia and many other issues , since these parents have kids playing all the vaccinations , I would like to Ask them to do one thing - be sure to follow with their children eat a hearty breakfast, let them go to school . "
Harvard Medical School and the latest research report , regular meals with their parents were the children grow up to be cancer, heart or nervous system diseases, than the long years of their children eating less . Because the latter often do not eat fruits and vegetables , and eating too much "junk food . "
The second advantage : to enhance the feelings of family members
Meal the child time to chat with the adults , but the work pressure or family budgets, not a topic discussed at this time , because this is the intimate family time . Meal suitable topic such as " today's fun to say to us who share ah ? "or" What are your feelings on this matter ? " or " what the plans this weekend ? "
We also have another strict rules : If you can not praise the food on the table , then say nothing . This rule does not cook, especially on the side to be strictly enforced.
The third benefit : The affectionate message
Stable and regular meal times , regardless of the content of the food is rich or simple , will send a message to the child , is: "Some people put in some effort for me , I was really concerned about the needs of every day , it was really good to me . "
Sometimes a meal is really a little trouble , we have to adjust the timetable, but this is not what we as parents responsibility?
Although modern life so that we have to face additional pressure , but we do not bow to the environment . Children have the right to get what they deserve a day of food . When we take good care of children in the diet , the kind of happiness is often not particularly open fire to the family can never understand .
Article 4 : Dr. Du tell you: a woman how to relieve anxiety ?
1 . Do not change things in the struggle .
Want to have a sound psychological , the first principle is to learn to accept the fact can not be changed , otherwise it will drive the same as stepping on the brake , simply could not move. A woman might be " something in addition to other things are going well "; she was healthy , her husband loves her children very happy, affluence , life is not boring . However, she is likely because the Department does not come with her mother , I felt incredibly sad day . She let the negative factors to all the wonderful things around .
Today I do not know how many women are dissatisfied, not only because of some unnecessary luxury . We should be aware of dissatisfaction and complaints will become a habit , this attitude will make you pay the price , so you can not enjoy life 's pleasures .
2 . To reserve for themselves a little time.
If you do housewife in the home , and too busy to take care of the child , then sometimes have to satisfy my needs, play at least once a week to play , or shopping , dance aerobics , and even free time you can spend an afternoon . Is always very healthy, her mother if fixed to relieve feelings of leisure activities the whole family will benefit.
More importantly , we must protect marriage of love . Should be weekly or once every two weeks and her husband go out to date , temporarily put aside the issue that day , take mine. The two men get along with spending money , the benefits far exceeding the over- bought piece of furniture or a new dress . If a woman knows that he is her husband's lover , not just the wife , life would be more pleasant.
3 . Do not deal with major problems in the evening .
Tired of the person's cognitive ability has a great influence , through hard work , a busy day , even the most simple things people find it difficult to face . All the questions in the evening seems to have become difficult to resolve , when decisions are often emotional than rational . Discussions often turn into an unnecessary argument , in fact, stay as long as the main thing to talk about the morning , you can avoid this kind of pressure and hostility. A good night's sleep , the next morning and then brew a cup of coffee , very helpful to solve the problem .
4 . Try to work out the project .
Often work to the done to help alleviate the pressure out . To write down things that do have three advantages: (1 ) you know you will not forget ; (2 ) ensure that the most important thing you can not miss that way , even if that day did not get things done , at least the most important What has been done ; (3 ) things done on the cross out , you can leave a complete record.
Little Links:
Earlier this year, a slow tune , Italy proposed the establishment of organizational life " living on the international transfer slow (SLOW DAY) ". The American journalist Carl Honoré • Create a " Find your lost time "campaign every year from four years ago at the time the General Assembly , proposed to the U.S. Congress on October 24 of each year named the "official non- watch day " . They called on people to throw away my alarm clock and watch and find out who was working misuse of free time, looking for a relaxed lifestyle , people can fully enjoy the freedom to enjoy the convenience of high-tech civilization , not a slave to do the time and technology .
2010年9月6日星期一
Lead
We often heard people say that young men and women before marriage should be opened wide eyes , look up the eyes of the he (she ) is not a suitable partner for life so that you entrusted . " Bible . Proverbs " 20:11 Day , said a person's movements are manifest his nature ; " Monitor " section 23:7 says , He was what , how his heart . Instrumentation and conversation can reveal a person's heart , carefully observe the two , as we recognize a person's reference . " Bible " taught that we should have a high degree of resolution (" Corinthians , " 12:10 Festival ), but should not be the attitude of argument (" Matthew " 7:1,2 section). Thesis is a lack of caring attitude , but a kind of insight into the hearts and minds distinguish acute powers of observation . The following items can be used as we know , to understand a person's reference:
His face is kind , joy , or is it perversity , workers in calculating ;
His clothes are clean, decent , or without putting too much emphasis on appearance ;
The attitude of his parents is filial piety , gratitude , or contempt for disobedience ;
His work attitude is attentive , serious , or lazy , perfunctory ;
He talks of the grace of wisdom , elegance , or shallow , no depth;
He dealt with dissenting views are constructive or destructive ;
His interpersonal relationships are large, forgiveness , or to care about , critical attitude towards others?
His style, attitude is down to earth , or the quick success then ?
Treatment of the unfortunate , he is feel pity , or schadenfreude ?
Dear friends , I hope the above we can observe these projects we want to make friends , especially our life companion .
Each of us are not isolated , are a team in a long , behind the ranks of the team , the team to move forward with this , do not know why because the attention of our colleagues , our words and deeds On the others also have a great impact , whether that impact is good or bad. A young preacher , from his personal experience learned such a lesson.
Story takes place in a city in Southeast Asia . One afternoon, a farmer went to church to find a preacher said to him : " Oda outside a woman in the town , a woman will soon passed away , the woman was a Christian , I hope before the terminal Please pray for her missionary , do not know preacher Can Go? " preacher heard this , just like TV drama went to the farmer . But do not take the number of road , a group of ragged drilled out from the grass , blocking his path , seized his hand , so that he could not move . The original group of kidnappers . They were detained up to preach . Head of the Mission of the kidnappers said : "We left you is for the money . foreign people support you must also have a lot of money . as long as you come up with a money , we will let you go ! " young preacher Said: " We are dedicated his life to God , living a life of disadvantaged families , our churches and from where to get a lot of money to supply you? " the head of the kidnappers , " Pooh , " a cry for the words of a preacher is not Believe . The next few months , the kidnappers to bring pastors from one another , tortured him. Let him do menial work , constantly whipping him, it is only to eat only to sustain life . Every night , the guards with a thick rope tied to his elbows and knees together, until the physical pain suffered only when sleeping in the past .
One night , the young preacher who was so asleep. Suddenly, he felt a hand on his shoulder . He opened his eyes and saw the moonlight that the first robber 's face . Bandit head whispered: "Do not talk ! " a knife in his hand , shining , and soon erupted took two legs tied down loose . "You are now free. go away! Maybe you run home . " preacher whispered : " Why do you want to do ? "" I 'll tell you why : I kick you, I beat you, you always suffer ; You pray for me ; you tell me you love me. If you kick me also , I play also , I know you're lying . But you will never change , so I let you go . " the preacher who quietly struggle Was stood up , holding out his hand . Robber holds preacher 's hand and whispered : "My old mother was sick at home , ask you for my mother in front of Jesus in your prayers now! goodbye . "
Six weeks later, pastor returned to his church , haggard and weak . Over a long period of time we go up to restore the previous strong . But his confidence is better than ever . Because he did not know before teaching by example than precept , to be a good example of their influence is great . Perhaps at this time , perhaps in this place , someone is watching you , someone is watching me, to you and me as a role model , and we do not know themselves .
His face is kind , joy , or is it perversity , workers in calculating ;
His clothes are clean, decent , or without putting too much emphasis on appearance ;
The attitude of his parents is filial piety , gratitude , or contempt for disobedience ;
His work attitude is attentive , serious , or lazy , perfunctory ;
He talks of the grace of wisdom , elegance , or shallow , no depth;
He dealt with dissenting views are constructive or destructive ;
His interpersonal relationships are large, forgiveness , or to care about , critical attitude towards others?
His style, attitude is down to earth , or the quick success then ?
Treatment of the unfortunate , he is feel pity , or schadenfreude ?
Dear friends , I hope the above we can observe these projects we want to make friends , especially our life companion .
Each of us are not isolated , are a team in a long , behind the ranks of the team , the team to move forward with this , do not know why because the attention of our colleagues , our words and deeds On the others also have a great impact , whether that impact is good or bad. A young preacher , from his personal experience learned such a lesson.
Story takes place in a city in Southeast Asia . One afternoon, a farmer went to church to find a preacher said to him : " Oda outside a woman in the town , a woman will soon passed away , the woman was a Christian , I hope before the terminal Please pray for her missionary , do not know preacher Can Go? " preacher heard this , just like TV drama went to the farmer . But do not take the number of road , a group of ragged drilled out from the grass , blocking his path , seized his hand , so that he could not move . The original group of kidnappers . They were detained up to preach . Head of the Mission of the kidnappers said : "We left you is for the money . foreign people support you must also have a lot of money . as long as you come up with a money , we will let you go ! " young preacher Said: " We are dedicated his life to God , living a life of disadvantaged families , our churches and from where to get a lot of money to supply you? " the head of the kidnappers , " Pooh , " a cry for the words of a preacher is not Believe . The next few months , the kidnappers to bring pastors from one another , tortured him. Let him do menial work , constantly whipping him, it is only to eat only to sustain life . Every night , the guards with a thick rope tied to his elbows and knees together, until the physical pain suffered only when sleeping in the past .
One night , the young preacher who was so asleep. Suddenly, he felt a hand on his shoulder . He opened his eyes and saw the moonlight that the first robber 's face . Bandit head whispered: "Do not talk ! " a knife in his hand , shining , and soon erupted took two legs tied down loose . "You are now free. go away! Maybe you run home . " preacher whispered : " Why do you want to do ? "" I 'll tell you why : I kick you, I beat you, you always suffer ; You pray for me ; you tell me you love me. If you kick me also , I play also , I know you're lying . But you will never change , so I let you go . " the preacher who quietly struggle Was stood up , holding out his hand . Robber holds preacher 's hand and whispered : "My old mother was sick at home , ask you for my mother in front of Jesus in your prayers now! goodbye . "
Six weeks later, pastor returned to his church , haggard and weak . Over a long period of time we go up to restore the previous strong . But his confidence is better than ever . Because he did not know before teaching by example than precept , to be a good example of their influence is great . Perhaps at this time , perhaps in this place , someone is watching you , someone is watching me, to you and me as a role model , and we do not know themselves .
The true meaning of repentance
Dear friends, Hello, everybody ! I was Tung-Chuan Yang pastor !
Once again, we come back to the road of faith thinking and sharing . Together with you today to discuss the basic Christian message is about repentance , to change the way an idea .
Christian message of repentance is emphasized that this is at the outset . In fact, preaching the Lord Jesus himself out when he started talking about that : " the kingdom of heaven , you have to repent . " In Greek with English " Bible " inside , repentance is the first word , and then said, because the kingdom of heaven Near, the date of full ...... these great apostle Peter with Paul , when they preach the gospel , are also spreading the truth commensurate with repentance . So repent of this lesson is the Christian faith from the outset . Quote a phrase used secular terms, this is a change . Repentance Greek, the word is in fact the life 180 -degree turn. In the past, the face of the world , his back to God ; now changed over, face to God , back to the world . This can be used to these , such as yesterday's dead ; after all , such as today's students, became a new person in the main inside . Old has gone , everything new has come . Therefore, this repentance , or we say about the change , must go through a few trips . In general, both in sociology with the medicine, the stress changes on the people , have to go through five stages .
The first stage, changes, or is aware of a state before . Well , most people who has little to do with religion , probably has been living in the changes, or ideas as before. Inside his heart is not ready yet , so you're talking about hype , the speaker for him was the Government's view , he is indifferent . Such people we must give them adequate time with the space and continue to pray for him , but we have to patiently wait for that moment to arrive. Time is not ripe for drilling results you will eventually have the opposite effect , even outside of their joining the ranks of the salvation . This is the gospel in our lives inside the process of learning experience. Therefore , this first stage is called pre- aware state . Is the meditation before , or the state of consciousness before .
The second stage, is already the state of consciousness . He used to not realize that the benefits of his Gospel , to a time , perhaps hearing to listen to more, or a friend a good witness , a neighbor, good behavior , or relatives , and parents caring for his heart by the very . Therefore, at this stage , is aware , aware of the benefits of the Gospel , to start generating interest , willing to accept the Gospel side of the communication . Therefore, this is the second stage. A former time had not come , he could not rise to his motives , so he is not aware of such a move , and now , they already have , with the discovery of perceived like this . However, he does not have any of the made decisions , there is no action. This is the second goal , from awareness to understand that this is a know state.
The third stage, preparation stage. This time, he already had decided , he is aware of this time had learned . But in the process, he has not decided to make any changes , just know that he felt were wrong in the present . Every catechumens friend to go through these three stages . May be long in front of the stage is pre- conscious action, and to the second stage there is understanding , with consciousness . Is entered again to the third stage, the third phase is a decision of the stage, I then on, keep up the evil sever the ties . This time may be started by the Holy Spirit , let him in my heart was deeply moved , he said that all the past , such as yesterday's dead ; after all , such as today's students . I never again gamble , and I were no longer smoking , and never again live in sin , and this is a preparatory stage.
The fourth stage , just said made decisions , but have not really started , and now the fourth time is a real action , this action is made aware of , have to understand , but do not buy cigarettes since then , and Will not drink wine , or no longer taking drugs , it has been the performance of such an action , follow-up action , this is very important. Then, the threshold beyond that of the catechumens for each friend request . Each seekers must come a time , open the door to his heart and accept Jesus Christ as his personal Savior . Since then , he can become a real couple . That is, " the Bible " says, can become a disciple of Jesus , also joined the lineup of gospel , joined the church members , willing Since then, a day way off . This is the " Matthew " Chapter 28, 19 - 20 sections: " Therefore go and make disciples of all people for me , on instructions from the Father , Son and Holy Spirit in the name of them to be baptized . all I have commanded you have learned They comply , I will always be with you until the end of the world . " Therefore , every seeker after such a threshold , a disciple of Jesus , baptized , and then follow the Lord, until the end of the world . This is a new generation disciples . Now, we talked about a change process, from awareness to understanding to the decision until some action , since then, it will become a Christian . However , there is one, is that we often overlook , or some of the mountain nine yards , lost by the wayside , stopped talking about this .
The fifth is a maintenance of , or participation in church life, a kind of appeal . Only with action and to faith , you must also true to maintain this lifestyle after . As a Christian, have already said , you have to plead guilty to repent , be baptized , then join the church, began to participate in fellowship of life , individuals have to bear much fruit , slowly in the concept of spirituality , spiritual gifts , The behavior of the growth , the step by step into the deep , and finally participate in the dedication of the church , prayer, spirituality to bear witness to play and dominated , leading people to Christ .
The life of the Church , which is what we call the sanctification of work . This proves that the process of repentance is not so simple , at least from the five stages , from awareness to understanding to decision to action , then that is to participate in , maintain , so the five stages , missing one essential. It was delayed on several stages in the past a lot of work . I have just mentioned the first stage , even people who wait until Qilaobashi before Christ, but rather lack of late do not you believe the Lord is come later , as long as you believed , then well, we very much welcome to join us , so This is the five stages of the process of change .
Let us further from a psychological point of view .
First, this is a change in life experiences of the process . But " the Bible " , this is a message of repentance . " repentance " We have many different word understanding , to say that repentance is not just admit it , admit , of course is necessary , but not admit people of all rewards with all through these five repentance . Because the world for the crime, the justice , for God will judge the ideas , the original is ambiguous , unless the Holy Spirit to start , we can not repent . So, just admit it is not enough . Although admit is the first element .
Second, repentance is not merely just a pious said . May sincere repentance , but repentance is not necessarily true . " Bible , " Simon spoke of sorcerers , he also believed in the Lord , he was still delusional money to buy the Holy Spirit . Some thieves after committing the crime , went to the front of the priest for confession , repentance , repentance , may come out later , he remains unchanged , then go out to commit crimes . These people have a pious heart, are not commensurate with the pious act .
Third, repentance is not just sad, that . Judah seller after the very heart of regret , sadness ; alcohol to drunk people may painful and sad the next ; those crimes suspects , but also because they were caught after the miserable, but , he sad that he 's been caught , Rather than the crime itself. Thus, regret not change , ultimately in vain.
Fourth, the repentance is not just wishing it . Former Hollywood movie , a TV series called " Honolulu Police ride . " I remember a police officer inside his tight lips are often a sign that said: "No deal . " those prisoners arrested by the police on a police wanted to bargain , but his first reaction often is "no deal " . Many deep problems , the burden on account of both God wants to wait until after the passage of time , he forgot . Wishing things to imminent , not real repentance .
Therefore, from the " Bible " point of view , the true meaning of repentance in the end what is it? English , " Webster " , said: " Repentance is the Holy Spirit in the heart, spirit and lifestyle of the big change. " This includes our knowledge , emotions and the will of big changes . Nicodemus visited Jesus at night , thinking he needs is a change ; the Samaritan woman to dissipation , a total of five husbands, she , her need is the act of power in her new life ; that What kind of reasoning would hold juvenile officer , but he needs the emotional , attitudinal change , otherwise , his last on the away sorrowful ; Cornelius the foreign officers , is a charity of the pious man , but he still needs to repent , Have eternal life , from love turned to love God and themselves; Philippi keeper of the prison , I heard an earthquake , but also mixed with poetry , his life had changed after the former arrogant Christine , have greatly changed the The attitude of Paul with Silas , but he does not understand the true meaning of salvation , so he needs is " Believe in the Lord Jesus, you and your family will be saved . " This is the knowledge of life changes .
Just now, we say that repentance is of knowledge , but also spiritual , and even major changes in lifestyle . Jesus with the lost sheep and a subtle analogy to explain the missing money, the real value of repentance : "I tell you , a sinner repent in heaven that likewise joy . " God is the lost pick back. But to be stressed that the necessity of repentance . Prodigal son story, the emphasis is listen to his words and deeds , and for the prodigal son repented confidence after the hold of joy and happiness . Therefore, repentance is to leave our current situation , into the arms of God , this is a great miracle ! If we are stuck in sin, but not full repentance ; if God gave us fall , not let us stand up ; if we can only immoral , but impossible to turn back ; if we had put a curse on the cross , as mocking the robber , and not Enter the park through prayer , our end is sad .
Christian what is it? This is the Gospel from beginning to end the spread of the truth that everyone must repent ! Sinners can repent have the peace of forgiveness , falling to stand up, the prisoners can be released, prodigal son may return to heaven.
Once again, we come back to the road of faith thinking and sharing . Together with you today to discuss the basic Christian message is about repentance , to change the way an idea .
Christian message of repentance is emphasized that this is at the outset . In fact, preaching the Lord Jesus himself out when he started talking about that : " the kingdom of heaven , you have to repent . " In Greek with English " Bible " inside , repentance is the first word , and then said, because the kingdom of heaven Near, the date of full ...... these great apostle Peter with Paul , when they preach the gospel , are also spreading the truth commensurate with repentance . So repent of this lesson is the Christian faith from the outset . Quote a phrase used secular terms, this is a change . Repentance Greek, the word is in fact the life 180 -degree turn. In the past, the face of the world , his back to God ; now changed over, face to God , back to the world . This can be used to these , such as yesterday's dead ; after all , such as today's students, became a new person in the main inside . Old has gone , everything new has come . Therefore, this repentance , or we say about the change , must go through a few trips . In general, both in sociology with the medicine, the stress changes on the people , have to go through five stages .
The first stage, changes, or is aware of a state before . Well , most people who has little to do with religion , probably has been living in the changes, or ideas as before. Inside his heart is not ready yet , so you're talking about hype , the speaker for him was the Government's view , he is indifferent . Such people we must give them adequate time with the space and continue to pray for him , but we have to patiently wait for that moment to arrive. Time is not ripe for drilling results you will eventually have the opposite effect , even outside of their joining the ranks of the salvation . This is the gospel in our lives inside the process of learning experience. Therefore , this first stage is called pre- aware state . Is the meditation before , or the state of consciousness before .
The second stage, is already the state of consciousness . He used to not realize that the benefits of his Gospel , to a time , perhaps hearing to listen to more, or a friend a good witness , a neighbor, good behavior , or relatives , and parents caring for his heart by the very . Therefore, at this stage , is aware , aware of the benefits of the Gospel , to start generating interest , willing to accept the Gospel side of the communication . Therefore, this is the second stage. A former time had not come , he could not rise to his motives , so he is not aware of such a move , and now , they already have , with the discovery of perceived like this . However, he does not have any of the made decisions , there is no action. This is the second goal , from awareness to understand that this is a know state.
The third stage, preparation stage. This time, he already had decided , he is aware of this time had learned . But in the process, he has not decided to make any changes , just know that he felt were wrong in the present . Every catechumens friend to go through these three stages . May be long in front of the stage is pre- conscious action, and to the second stage there is understanding , with consciousness . Is entered again to the third stage, the third phase is a decision of the stage, I then on, keep up the evil sever the ties . This time may be started by the Holy Spirit , let him in my heart was deeply moved , he said that all the past , such as yesterday's dead ; after all , such as today's students . I never again gamble , and I were no longer smoking , and never again live in sin , and this is a preparatory stage.
The fourth stage , just said made decisions , but have not really started , and now the fourth time is a real action , this action is made aware of , have to understand , but do not buy cigarettes since then , and Will not drink wine , or no longer taking drugs , it has been the performance of such an action , follow-up action , this is very important. Then, the threshold beyond that of the catechumens for each friend request . Each seekers must come a time , open the door to his heart and accept Jesus Christ as his personal Savior . Since then , he can become a real couple . That is, " the Bible " says, can become a disciple of Jesus , also joined the lineup of gospel , joined the church members , willing Since then, a day way off . This is the " Matthew " Chapter 28, 19 - 20 sections: " Therefore go and make disciples of all people for me , on instructions from the Father , Son and Holy Spirit in the name of them to be baptized . all I have commanded you have learned They comply , I will always be with you until the end of the world . " Therefore , every seeker after such a threshold , a disciple of Jesus , baptized , and then follow the Lord, until the end of the world . This is a new generation disciples . Now, we talked about a change process, from awareness to understanding to the decision until some action , since then, it will become a Christian . However , there is one, is that we often overlook , or some of the mountain nine yards , lost by the wayside , stopped talking about this .
The fifth is a maintenance of , or participation in church life, a kind of appeal . Only with action and to faith , you must also true to maintain this lifestyle after . As a Christian, have already said , you have to plead guilty to repent , be baptized , then join the church, began to participate in fellowship of life , individuals have to bear much fruit , slowly in the concept of spirituality , spiritual gifts , The behavior of the growth , the step by step into the deep , and finally participate in the dedication of the church , prayer, spirituality to bear witness to play and dominated , leading people to Christ .
The life of the Church , which is what we call the sanctification of work . This proves that the process of repentance is not so simple , at least from the five stages , from awareness to understanding to decision to action , then that is to participate in , maintain , so the five stages , missing one essential. It was delayed on several stages in the past a lot of work . I have just mentioned the first stage , even people who wait until Qilaobashi before Christ, but rather lack of late do not you believe the Lord is come later , as long as you believed , then well, we very much welcome to join us , so This is the five stages of the process of change .
Let us further from a psychological point of view .
First, this is a change in life experiences of the process . But " the Bible " , this is a message of repentance . " repentance " We have many different word understanding , to say that repentance is not just admit it , admit , of course is necessary , but not admit people of all rewards with all through these five repentance . Because the world for the crime, the justice , for God will judge the ideas , the original is ambiguous , unless the Holy Spirit to start , we can not repent . So, just admit it is not enough . Although admit is the first element .
Second, repentance is not merely just a pious said . May sincere repentance , but repentance is not necessarily true . " Bible , " Simon spoke of sorcerers , he also believed in the Lord , he was still delusional money to buy the Holy Spirit . Some thieves after committing the crime , went to the front of the priest for confession , repentance , repentance , may come out later , he remains unchanged , then go out to commit crimes . These people have a pious heart, are not commensurate with the pious act .
Third, repentance is not just sad, that . Judah seller after the very heart of regret , sadness ; alcohol to drunk people may painful and sad the next ; those crimes suspects , but also because they were caught after the miserable, but , he sad that he 's been caught , Rather than the crime itself. Thus, regret not change , ultimately in vain.
Fourth, the repentance is not just wishing it . Former Hollywood movie , a TV series called " Honolulu Police ride . " I remember a police officer inside his tight lips are often a sign that said: "No deal . " those prisoners arrested by the police on a police wanted to bargain , but his first reaction often is "no deal " . Many deep problems , the burden on account of both God wants to wait until after the passage of time , he forgot . Wishing things to imminent , not real repentance .
Therefore, from the " Bible " point of view , the true meaning of repentance in the end what is it? English , " Webster " , said: " Repentance is the Holy Spirit in the heart, spirit and lifestyle of the big change. " This includes our knowledge , emotions and the will of big changes . Nicodemus visited Jesus at night , thinking he needs is a change ; the Samaritan woman to dissipation , a total of five husbands, she , her need is the act of power in her new life ; that What kind of reasoning would hold juvenile officer , but he needs the emotional , attitudinal change , otherwise , his last on the away sorrowful ; Cornelius the foreign officers , is a charity of the pious man , but he still needs to repent , Have eternal life , from love turned to love God and themselves; Philippi keeper of the prison , I heard an earthquake , but also mixed with poetry , his life had changed after the former arrogant Christine , have greatly changed the The attitude of Paul with Silas , but he does not understand the true meaning of salvation , so he needs is " Believe in the Lord Jesus, you and your family will be saved . " This is the knowledge of life changes .
Just now, we say that repentance is of knowledge , but also spiritual , and even major changes in lifestyle . Jesus with the lost sheep and a subtle analogy to explain the missing money, the real value of repentance : "I tell you , a sinner repent in heaven that likewise joy . " God is the lost pick back. But to be stressed that the necessity of repentance . Prodigal son story, the emphasis is listen to his words and deeds , and for the prodigal son repented confidence after the hold of joy and happiness . Therefore, repentance is to leave our current situation , into the arms of God , this is a great miracle ! If we are stuck in sin, but not full repentance ; if God gave us fall , not let us stand up ; if we can only immoral , but impossible to turn back ; if we had put a curse on the cross , as mocking the robber , and not Enter the park through prayer , our end is sad .
Christian what is it? This is the Gospel from beginning to end the spread of the truth that everyone must repent ! Sinners can repent have the peace of forgiveness , falling to stand up, the prisoners can be released, prodigal son may return to heaven.
2010年9月1日星期三
How to grow and develop along with adolescent children
In a time when children enter adolescence, which challenges may be encountered . Parents will be in the child's growing up years in the interactive relationship between the learning and growing. When the children to enter adolescence , many parents will begin to stress that the child's adolescence is known that during the storm , about to have a lot of "storm" is coming .
Children to the youth of the time , there are many rebellious attitude , behavior, etc. , but not everyone reach this stage, the youngsters will definitely be rebellious attitude or behavior. Some children will have a strong change , such as treason , and the parents quarrel , some children remain moderate through this period . Why do children have such two extreme performance? In the process of parenting a child , they will affect whether or not the child's respect for the child's growth . To young children will find themselves on like an adult. If parents have children with a way to teach children respect , children's bounce may not be so great. In addition , friends will have a great impact on the child , if a child my friends are the same reaction pattern to get along with their parents , the child will be learning this . If parents educate their children with a mild form , the child will feel being respected; the other hand, if the total of the kids yelling parents , the child will feel respected , will be malicious .
Young children with parents of the performance differences between the patterns of life . There will be disagreement between husband and wife , and when differences arise between husband and wife conflict is how to deal with , and is a rational approach to solve the problem , or non- rational , or even violent approach to solve the problem. This is a child brought up in their parents will be able to see. This virtually affected children . Some couples fight the Cold War long after the child is a very bad example . Leaves more harmony between husband and wife and sisters who also have respect for their children. They treat their children as friends , whether in good times or adversity, all the children to share , let the children know that parents have a strong side and weak side , in which children learn how to rely on prayer as their parents . In small children , when they saw the couple have not today , they unconsciously do one thing before going to bed every night with the kids are reading and prayer . Such behavior , let the children learn not only the words of Scripture , there is as a Christian way of life. Even , the difficulties between the couple , conflicts , worries , children are invited to pray for them . Child is small, but pray that God will hears her . This allows the child time to learn to understand in the face of things to talk to God , even if the parent is not around, they know they are the Father and with them, they can pray , you can look up to , can have hope .
Parents with their children 's time is very short . Even now parents are very troubled children , but parents have to cherish , because the time passed quickly .
In the Yang brothers learn a lesson in life is to magnify the Lord . In his memory, small children , he encountered difficulties, and children to share , let the children help pray .
Results words of Scripture, the child to encourage him to become his teacher , became his angel . Parents also have weaknesses and blind spots . But their children and their parents can still life, brave and sincere enough that their parents , so parents can be suitably also reflect on progress so slowly . Ye sister said that her daughter is like a mirror , let her see their own deficiencies , when her daughter that her low, her heart is happy , she wanted to learn how to humble acceptance of change themselves. Similarly , allowing her daughter to learn how to grow humble . No one is perfect , but people can mistake in learning and progress. I remember when her eldest daughter to college just when she was very worried about her daughter's situation , to call her every day to understand the situation . But instead of interfering with daughter's life . Then her daughter told her , ask her to play once a week telephone . At the time , like her mother, though , and many are worried , but she decided to follow the recommendations of his daughter , and slowly learn how to let go . Every parent must learn to let go after the children grow up , otherwise the child is a very painful thing.
Children to the youth of the time , there are many rebellious attitude , behavior, etc. , but not everyone reach this stage, the youngsters will definitely be rebellious attitude or behavior. Some children will have a strong change , such as treason , and the parents quarrel , some children remain moderate through this period . Why do children have such two extreme performance? In the process of parenting a child , they will affect whether or not the child's respect for the child's growth . To young children will find themselves on like an adult. If parents have children with a way to teach children respect , children's bounce may not be so great. In addition , friends will have a great impact on the child , if a child my friends are the same reaction pattern to get along with their parents , the child will be learning this . If parents educate their children with a mild form , the child will feel being respected; the other hand, if the total of the kids yelling parents , the child will feel respected , will be malicious .
Young children with parents of the performance differences between the patterns of life . There will be disagreement between husband and wife , and when differences arise between husband and wife conflict is how to deal with , and is a rational approach to solve the problem , or non- rational , or even violent approach to solve the problem. This is a child brought up in their parents will be able to see. This virtually affected children . Some couples fight the Cold War long after the child is a very bad example . Leaves more harmony between husband and wife and sisters who also have respect for their children. They treat their children as friends , whether in good times or adversity, all the children to share , let the children know that parents have a strong side and weak side , in which children learn how to rely on prayer as their parents . In small children , when they saw the couple have not today , they unconsciously do one thing before going to bed every night with the kids are reading and prayer . Such behavior , let the children learn not only the words of Scripture , there is as a Christian way of life. Even , the difficulties between the couple , conflicts , worries , children are invited to pray for them . Child is small, but pray that God will hears her . This allows the child time to learn to understand in the face of things to talk to God , even if the parent is not around, they know they are the Father and with them, they can pray , you can look up to , can have hope .
Parents with their children 's time is very short . Even now parents are very troubled children , but parents have to cherish , because the time passed quickly .
In the Yang brothers learn a lesson in life is to magnify the Lord . In his memory, small children , he encountered difficulties, and children to share , let the children help pray .
Results words of Scripture, the child to encourage him to become his teacher , became his angel . Parents also have weaknesses and blind spots . But their children and their parents can still life, brave and sincere enough that their parents , so parents can be suitably also reflect on progress so slowly . Ye sister said that her daughter is like a mirror , let her see their own deficiencies , when her daughter that her low, her heart is happy , she wanted to learn how to humble acceptance of change themselves. Similarly , allowing her daughter to learn how to grow humble . No one is perfect , but people can mistake in learning and progress. I remember when her eldest daughter to college just when she was very worried about her daughter's situation , to call her every day to understand the situation . But instead of interfering with daughter's life . Then her daughter told her , ask her to play once a week telephone . At the time , like her mother, though , and many are worried , but she decided to follow the recommendations of his daughter , and slowly learn how to let go . Every parent must learn to let go after the children grow up , otherwise the child is a very painful thing.
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