Yesterday, Mr Li Qing , and married about running some of the examples of character . So, personality clashes are not for a couple divorce, reasons?
In fact, personality clashes is not necessarily a negative factor , personality clashes can also be a positive factor, I have to do with my husband over personality tests and found four large projects in which we each are different. Each one is the opposite , for example, there are A side or B side , each of which he is A or B, I and he is completely the opposite . If personality clashes are grounds for divorce , we set the left . We do this just to test the psychologist and his wife are like us , is entirely different, he was one of us say that you , like this situation with us , or your second year of marriage must be broken up , or You've been running down there eight gifts to your children . For example, my husband personality characteristics in the four personality inside me that we are together the other four features , not just merge two swords , eight swords but the synthesis of the merger (*^__^*), we can pass To our children , our children will be affected .
That husband and wife running each other's personality , if we are to have the wisdom and love from God , then the results of this run-in so that your marriage can not only stable, sustainable, and can let our children benefit greatly from . My husband is a more introverted personality , I am more outgoing , he more carefully , I see the big picture , I am more expertise in the planning of the above , he was doing very well in the implementation of the above , I often learn a lot from him , when When the child's education with us , there will be some help , help children to establish a number of features. But in the run-in process which is very painful , I would think , Why should one more person next to me to do graver ah ? ! I am a person are you getting good , and sometimes envy those single sister , ah, want to go go where no marriage is also the lakes before the wind took walked and , after marrying on a lot of restrictions on how it should be done? Later I discovered a great secret in it , the past I have a lot of life inside the point , my husband helped me to see , but very important key to what is it? I want to humble !
When I measure to get married at the time , I told God, prayer , and I said Lord I ask you to give me a confirmed , this brother is not coming with me day road . Our church is a prayer meeting on Friday , a day before a prayer meeting called to my husband ( who was not yet married ) that I'll want to go to your church prayer meeting , I said what you usually do not come to our The prayer meeting , and when I participated in the Cantonese of the Church, my husband is from Shandong , Shandong grew up in Brazil , he did not understand Cantonese . Then he said to come , I said I would not block you, he said I pray to God, prayer is heard , people are not listening , I said, Well then you come .
On the day he came to my house before I take my heart has a very strong move , I want to pray , that is, the prayer meeting , I keep up prayer before God . I knelt down with God , said God , this is not your brother give me away -day road with me people, I do not want the future of our marriage out of respect for individuality , or some friction parted. On the one hand to do a bad witness , on the other hand in the direction of the ministry there will be some changes above . When I pray there is a very wonderful idea out of my own very clear that ideas , not from the inside out in my mind I plan to keep up what God says . I said , Lord, through prayer meeting which will , if re- elected Pastor Poetry " by me to give NOK "is the proof you gave me , I was doing such a prayer , if not (not very likely because the original More than 500 poems in this first )(*^__^*) if I break up tomorrow, like his , and I brought him a prayer finished , like how did I just say that with God ? I know it is not out of my head impulses.
So, as prayed since the very tense after the heart has been waiting for this pastor today would choose What song poetry, and thought that if not how to do? Not to mention my brother was like , think of others I'm fine, doing very serious , very love of God , but not to the stage of full-time ministry . I hope that after my brother was serving full time with me , before I even think I will marry my pastor friends , preaching , but he was not , he is a company doing administrative work . So then I would have reservations , then I have full-time ministry , and totally dedicated to God. I told him I did not like prayer . But I was very clear , if not, I will fulfill my promise with God . It was winter when we were driving to be a bit late , has started playing the piano, to sing a poem . Hey ~ ~ which tweedle stopped , the original of that song selection , we playing the sisters , playing the very ring true Could a re-election , and then our pastor on the election , I sat down, turned pastor A moment that , on this right " by me to give NOK "
Oh ~ ~ My God ! my God ! I was first told me next to reflect the good sister said Ling ah ! I knew right away can not be said that this is God with me . This confirms not only the spiritual well inside that time , been reading things that Abraham offered Isaac , I am very clear on the God want us to put God first priority. If there are other things , other people , other things more important than God , when will occupy our hearts as our Lord , I pray that at the time , I think back now to tell the difference , I love God more important or more important objects .
Because there is such a confirmation , marriage advice after incompatible personalities, there are some discrepancies in various aspects , I would think I did how would marry this person, how to do this decision , mad ! Back to the original decision of that moment, I knew it was God 's intention , but it is important that the song has given me great inspiration , " take me to give NOK " , when we hope to God through our giving NOK , We have to give NOK with a vessel , that is a vessels can give NOK , he is not an opinionated , or a proud vessel , not a wayward vessel . Early marriage I often thought, how kind of God I came in this marriage by gift NOK inside it ? God how I like to do through the construction work?
Incompatible personalities to adjust , we will say that why he did not first adjustment, his first adjustment I can change , but because God gave us by my mission is to give NOK . So regardless of the other party to change or not change , adjust does not adjust , I'll change , I'll adjust . Is wonderful , when I am willing to obey God , God changed him, so this relationship to go for 15 years , and today I can say that this is God's grace , perhaps the beginning of the adjustment when we will not be reconciled , but we often thought to Love the cross , Jesus in Gethsemane prayer of great help to me . Improved relations between husband and wife , no relationship is the same I would like to , how to have a heart to take me to give NOK , that is a given , and a willingness to adjust , and take the initiative to amend , not to demand , not to ask for To change. So you will find the adjustment in the relationship above will be quite different. As our lives continue to be the main pruning, sculpture , gradually a lot of temper , a lot of personality, the more humility, gentleness , patience, goodness and so more and more time , God can use our lives to go on Helpful to others , to become a blessing to others .
So character does not and is not a good reason for divorce !
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